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Oftentimes they don't know they're asexual until after they've in conventional relationships. They may assume they have a low sex drive, have hormonal issues, are stressed out, dealing with depression, etc. So it's not like asexuals knowingly seek out relationships with non-asexuals when more times than not they don't realize they're asexual (vs. the other reasons) until later in life, often after going through therapy/counseling and introspection/soul-searching sparked by relationship challenges (sexless or infrequent sex during a LTR or marriage or physical intimacy issues).
I do have a friend that was married for a number of years and currently enjoys a companionship/relationship with someone who is also asexual.
How do asexuals even meet each other outside of asexuality forums? I would assume that an asexual man wouldn't bother seeking out any kind of relationship although I could imagine that an asexual woman might still enjoy a relationship that didn't include sex. I could be wrong though.
Why be in a romantic intimate relatioship if you're not into any type of sexual act (kissing, foreplay, etc) ??
So, women that been "faking it" for millennia are doing it for what purpose? boredom? sht&giggles? financial gain?
Because they like the RELATIONSHIP except for the sex.
Of course non-asexual guys won't get it - they only tolerate the relationship to GET the sex, right? But lots of women, and some guys, just like the conversation and being together to do stuff and maybe even cuddling but no more than that.
How do asexuals even meet each other outside of asexuality forums? I would assume that an asexual man wouldn't bother seeking out any kind of relationship although I could imagine that an asexual woman might still enjoy a relationship that didn't include sex. I could be wrong though.
Support groups, forums, niche dating sites, etc. I don't see why an asexual man is less likely to desire other forms of companionship than, say, a woman. Both can appreciate forms of closeness, cuddling, hand-holding, hugging, and other types of intimacy (emotional, intellectual, etc.) They just aren't interested in sex. I have asexual friends that came to realize they have little interest in sex, often after they've been in relationships, but still very much enjoy companionship and other forms of connection.
Because they like the RELATIONSHIP except for the sex.
Of course non-asexual guys won't get it - they only tolerate the relationship to GET the sex, right? But lots of women, and some guys, just like the conversation and being together to do stuff and maybe even cuddling but no more than that.
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Support groups, forums, niche dating sites, etc. I don't see why an asexual man is less likely to desire other forms of companionship than, say, a woman. Both can appreciate forms of closeness, cuddling, hand-holding, hugging, and other types of intimacy (emotional, intellectual, etc.) They just aren't interested in sex. I have asexual friends that came to realize they have little interest in sex, often after they've been in relationships, but still very much enjoy companionship and other forms of connection.
So, you women are saying cuddling isn't a intimate sexual act in a romantic relatioship? I always thought it was. The OP mentioned "not interested in sex" meaning none whatsoever is what I was basing my comments on.
So, you women are saying cuddling isn't a intimate sexual act in a romantic relatioship? I always thought it was. The OP mentioned "not interested in sex" meaning none whatsoever is what I was basing my comments on.
I don't personally consider cuddling to be an intimate sexual act if there was no sex involved before or after the cuddling.
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So, you women are saying cuddling isn't a intimate sexual act in a romantic relatioship? I always thought it was. The OP mentioned "not interested in sex" meaning none whatsoever is what I was basing my comments on.
I don't personally consider cuddling to be an intimate sexual act if there was no sex involved before or after the cuddling.
So, if we were in a committed relationship (hypothetically of course) you wouldn't have any problems with me cuddling/spooning/sporking other women? because after-all...it isn't sexual
So, if we were in a committed relationship (hypothetically of course) you wouldn't have any problems with me cuddling/spooning/sporking other women? because after-all...it isn't sexual
Im really starting to like this cuddling thing
Well, I don't consider kissing sexual either, but YES, I'd have a problem with someone kissing/cuddling other women if we were supposed to be exclusive. Those aren't things that I do with people who I only like in a friendly way even though I don't consider them sexual. That's why I also don't agree with the sentiment that a relationship is strictly platonic if sex isn't involved because sex isn't the only thing that makes a relationship romantic (in my opinion).
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So, if we were in a committed relationship (hypothetically of course) you wouldn't have any problems with me cuddling/spooning/sporking other women? because after-all...it isn't sexual
Im really starting to like this cuddling thing
Loads of people would have problems with that intimacy outside of their committed relationship. That doesn't make it sexual.
Some people would not have an issue with it.
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But lots of women, and some guys, just like the conversation and being together to do stuff and maybe even cuddling but no more than that.
