Would you struggle with a relationship with someone who lost their looks? (marriage, loving)

[cmarlow]

If it were by an accident that wouldn't change how I felt in any way because he is still the same person inside. If he stopped caring about his health and gained a ton of weight, well I'd be blown away because he's very into health and always has been which is one of the things I love about him because I care about eating well/exercising/staying active and it's a huge part of who he is...so...I don't know what I'd actually do...try to get him back into exercise and bring healthy food around more and if that didn't work get him into counseling I guess...I'd exhaust my options for sure before I ever thought we were just too different to be together...although I am turned off by overweight but hopefully w/him it would be different...he does have this weird skin condition that he could go through some extensive stuff to have fixed but doesn't want to and that doesn't bother me.

[geeoro]

Ask my wife!

[LaMadden]

I disagree ...........beauty is in the eye of the beer holder

[60-minutes-II]

I wouldn't struggle to even make a serious relationship so yeah I am bound to be alone for the remainder of my life

[gumbyfly]

Everybody gets uglier in their lifetime. It is natural. There are sooo many more good-looking 20-somethings than 30-somethings. By the time people hit their 40s (for the most part), good looks are in the past. It doesn't take an accident. Smoking, exposure to the sun, eating fatty foods... Lots of things contribute to people losing their youthful good looks. Plus the natural affects of aging, such as growth of hair in unwanted places, loss of hair in wanted places, sagging skin, and the urge to drive impossibly slow... Life is cruel.
As long as the "accident" didn't add a whole truckload of emotional baggage that they have to deal with for the rest of their lives, it should not be an issue. I would tend to think that a woman who has been the beauty queen until a disfiguring accident would become so emotionally distraught that she was no longer a beauty queen, that she would become unbearable to be around from her self-imposed pity party (personal opinion). Especially if looks was the only thing she had.

[another_hot-day]

Originally Posted by Cruikshl

I disagree ...........beauty is in the eye of the beer holder

Ha ha ha!! Nice!!

[NotARedneck]

Originally Posted by L.I.erin

sorry to be sexist but i feel that most(not all) women would stick by their mates, and most men tend to think with their penises, and if would not leave or cheat would flirt or stare...really hard..... at other women...men are sick by nature...no offense

You are probably correct but this is because many women marry the wrong type of men. What is amusing is that when they get dumped, such men are easily able to get married again.

The statistics are clear. There are far more single men than single women and an even greater ratio of divorced women to divorced men. However, there are still a lot more men than women outside relationships. This only changes after age 55.

[JonathanLB]

Originally Posted by politically_correct

A friend of mine was so excited about his girl friend who eventually became his wife. She was such a beauty and my friend was so excited to be with someone who was so sexy and attractive. While there were other aspects of their relationship, the physical attraction on both sides was the big thing. Being beautiful was always what gave her credibility with friends and coworkers. That was her identity, the beautiful women. And she was beautiful! Tragically that was all lost when she got into an accident and now her beauty is gone for ever. Could you continue your relationship with your spouse if something terrible happened to him or her and the beauty was gone?

No, that's nasty. It's time to move on.

[carlitasway]

I would stay with my husband. He's worth so much more than the way he looks.

[dave nz]

Soulmate no. Casual relationship yes.