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Trust me, I went through similar this year. I'm 37, she was 26. Bottom line, she can text if she is with her dad. Maybe she was at a mall with a guy, but it ain't daddy. A woman will string you along if you show her she can. It's clear you don't really trust her, once you start down that road it's already over. I'd move on. Seriously.
I mean is it utter bs or what? Or am I wrong for second guessing her? Shall I just act casual and say ok no problem.
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I'm tempted to just completely ignoring her for a few days.....in my opinion, it's obvious that she was most likely hanging out with the friend or some other guy, I mean 5 hrs at the mall? And not even a chance to send me a quick txt to say she's busy. Would it be wise move to cut the contact for a couple of days?
That would be the definition of petty. At 33 you should be better than that.
Trust me, I went through similar this year. I'm 37, she was 26. Bottom line, she can text if she is with her dad. Maybe she was at a mall with a guy, but it ain't daddy. A woman will string you along if you show her she can. It's clear you don't really trust her, once you start down that road it's already over. I'd move on. Seriously.
...to just not reply to her text at all
... I mean ignore her for a few days or completely...
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I'm tempted to just completely ignoring her for a few days...
You two are a mismatch.
She could easily have spent 5 hours with her dad. But as a father yourself, you need to do better than trolling for college girls who are just starting out in life and most likely aren't going to be the serious partner you are looking for.
Certainly you can have a social life, but you HAVE to consider your girls' needs when evaluating potential dates and not just base it on who you want to have sex with.
She could easily have spent 5 hours with her dad. But as a father yourself, you need to do better than trolling for college girls who are just starting out in life and most likely aren't going to be the serious partner you are looking for.
Certainly you can have a social life, but you HAVE to consider your girls' needs when evaluating potential dates and not just base it on who you want to have sex with.
Fair enough. So how should I handle this? Reply to her and continue talking to her like we have, regardless of what may or may not be going on with her guy friend? I mean some are saying that I need to earn her respect--which I don't seem to have--by not responding to her. I mean really, from a woman's perspective, how is she going to view me if she takes hrs to reply and does it sporadically, yet I'm consistent, and even after this, I will be quick to reply to her as if nothing is going on? Yes you say I should be casual about it but like you said before, that would be disingenuous on my part so why fool her and myself? So based on these factors, what should be my course of action?
I think you should back WAY off and not care if she replies.
You have invested too many feelings already in what sounds like a very typical college girl.
She will probably respond in a way you will like if you back off because she will miss the attention. But you should not view that as a positive sign. Wean yourself from this attachment an go on with your life. I don't think you should meet up at all with her anymore.
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