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Ive noticed a pattern where basically I have to ask all the questions and control the conversation. very rarely does a woman ask me questions until we've been talking for quite a while. These are younger women around 20-25. They love to talk about themselves though which is good I guess. Seems to be the norm which I'm okay with, I'm asking if other guys have this same experience. This is over about 50 lengthy conversations of women I've met online, and maybe 20 conversations I've had in person.
Ive noticed a pattern where basically I have to ask all the questions and control the conversation. very rarely does a woman ask me questions until we've been talking for quite a while. These are younger women around 20-25. They love to talk about themselves though which is good I guess. Seems to be the norm which I'm okay with, I'm asking if other guys have this same experience. This is over about 50 lengthy conversations of women I've met online, and maybe 20 conversations I've had in person.
I never thought about it as "controlling" the conversation. In most cases, conversations I've had with women have just flowed.
I notice this too..I just always assumed it meant the woman wasnt interested in talking to me...but then, I notice when I DONT ask questions or check on them, they ask ME "why havent you spoken to me in a while?"...I dont really get it. I always assume when people dont seem quick to engage with me that they dont want me to bother them or they want me to leave them alone. But then when you dont bother them they dont seem happy about that either.
I don't know. I never had that problem. Maybe it's the way we express ourselves? Or the age group? Or the type of women we attract? Or are attracted to?
Some may be worried that if they do, the men will complain that it seemed like "an interview."
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Let me clarify. Control meaning if left to the woman, the conversation will die immediately. I have to pick the topics, ask the questions, etc. I'm not here to complain just bringing up my observation. I'm an interesting guy with some wilf life experiences, but I rarely get asked what I even do for a living or what my age is until after I've made lengthy conversation if it ever even gets to that point. I had heard a while back that guys have to pretty much make 90% of the conversation until a woman "opens up" or whatever. Was just curious what other guy's experiences were with OLD and in public places.
I'm a woman and I went on a date where I had to carry the conversation.
I learned not to make that mistake again, and made sure the guy could participate by talking to him on the phone or texting for awhile. The weeded them out pretty quick.
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