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Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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Originally Posted by MinivanDriver
No. It's because this is a variant of the guy who keeps hanging with a woman after he has been friend zoned. Same basic thing.
If there is no romantic interest, then it's perfectly okay for men and women to be friends. But when one person has romantic interests and the other does not reciprocate, it turns into something else, a less-than-honest relationship between two people.
No. It's because this is a variant of the guy who keeps hanging with a woman after he has been friend zoned. Same basic thing.
If there is no romantic interest, then it's perfectly okay for men and women to be friends. But when one person has romantic interests and the other does not reciprocate, it turns into something else, a less-than-honest relationship between two people.
I was asking the OP, not you. We don't know that the OP feels it's perfectly ok for men & women to be friends. My post was worded specifically to find out how he feels about that in general, not in this specific case.
Maybe its an opportunity for you to get to know her, and find out that she is something quite interesting after all. Maybe its so you two can attract dates for each other. Sort of like you getting access to her girl friends, while she gets access to your guy friends. Maybe...I don't know...
Hmmm, I don't know if I would jump to the conclusion that she is hoping to convince him over time to change his mind.
I have met guys via dating that I would be happy to be just friends with. Even if he initiated a break up, and I still had feelings for him, I have enough pride to recognize that if he is Just Not That Into Me, I don't want to be with him. I've had that conversation with a few guys, but they never took me up on it. No big loss. I just really need more people in my life, romantic or not.
Only once have I been able to transition a guy I dated into a friend. It probably only happened because my house had a pool, otherwise he would have dropped me completely.
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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Originally Posted by ComeCloser
Maybe its an opportunity for you to get to know her, and find out that she is something quite interesting after all. Maybe its so you two can attract dates for each other. Sort of like you getting access to her girl friends, while she gets access to your guy friends. Maybe...I don't know...
What does she say the reason is?
He went out with her a few times. He has sufficient data to reach the conclusion that he has already reached that he doesn’t like her. No need to waste anymore time when he’s already made his mind up on her, for either of their sakes.
So, you're not into friendships with women? Not saying this woman would be the one to be friends with, since she's more emotionally-invested than you, but in general--no women friends? Women are useless if you can't f--- 'em?
Can’t rep you, but for the poster, that seems to be the size of it.
No. It's because this is a variant of the guy who keeps hanging with a woman after he has been friend zoned. Same basic thing.
If there is no romantic interest, then it's perfectly okay for men and women to be friends. But when one person has romantic interests and the other does not reciprocate, it turns into something else, a less-than-honest relationship between two people.
I agree. As a man, if a woman has no romantic interest and friend-zones me, I'm so gone I forget she even existed! I've got more than enough friends.
With the OP, he needs to reemphasize that he's not interested in a relationship with her. If she continues to hang out with him, she's gonna get her feelings hurt. She's pining away for him while he's either pursuing or with someone else.
ETA: This is NOT to say that I won't hang out with women who are platonic friends! I have a few in that category and we had mutually agreed long before: Just Friends - no more, no less.
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Originally Posted by Berteau
I went out with a girl a few times and she said she really liked me but I wasn't into her so I ended it. But then she asked me if I still wanted to hang our or do something. She has feelings and I don't. What's up with her still wanting to hang out? Seems like an excuse to keep dating me.
Sounds like she is open to being friends and likes hanging out with you. That's straight forward enough. I meet loads of people I'd be into being friends with I don't want to date.
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Originally Posted by The Dissenter
He went out with her a few times. He has sufficient data to reach the conclusion that he has already reached that he doesn’t like her. No need to waste anymore time when he’s already made his mind up on her, for either of their sakes.
He never said or implied he didn't like her. He said he didn't want to date her. Those are two very widely different things.
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