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What does that mean when that was the suggestion for someone who is at the beginning phase of dating? Does that mean no calling? No reaching out? No contact?
What does that mean when that was the suggestion for someone who is at the beginning phase of dating? Does that mean no calling? No reaching out? No contact?
^^this^^ be coy with him. he needs to chase you otherwise he isnt worth the effort. its fine to call him, its fine to even initiate the call, but dont be ready to go out with him just because he asks you out. make him work for the date. if he is truly interested in you, then this is the attitude he will have;
^^this^^ be coy with him. he needs to chase you otherwise he isnt worth the effort. its fine to call him, its fine to even initiate the call, but dont be ready to go out with him just because he asks you out. make him work for the date. if he is truly interested in you, then this is the attitude he will have;
?? Isn't that what's usually called "playing games"?
?? Isn't that what's usually called "playing games"?
I'd say so!
''Make him work for it?'', come on, man.
Anybody who you make ''Work for it'' who has enough sense is gonna wash their hands of the situation and find someone that isn't into playing these kinds of games and wasting their time, energy and expenditure of calories.
Anyone who follows that philosophy and doesn't just go out with me and makes me work for it before agreeing to go out with me? You could rest assure that I'd give up long before that. Only someone in a scarcity mindset, who thinks it's the last person on earth that they ever have a chance of dating would be insane enough to stick around for that. Anyone who puts me through that to try and prove my worth is someone that would make me think they're really not that interested. And when they're really not that interested? I don't waste anymore. I get out of the situation.
Anybody who you make ''Work for it'' who has enough sense is gonna wash their hands of the situation and find someone that isn't into playing these kinds of games and wasting their time, energy and expenditure of calories.
Anyone who follows that philosophy and doesn't just go out with me and makes me work for it before agreeing to go out with me? You could rest assure that I'd give up long before that. Only someone in a scarcity mindset, who thinks it's the last person on earth that they ever have a chance of dating would be insane enough to stick around for that. Anyone who puts me through that to try and prove my worth is someone that would make me think they're really not that interested. And when they're really not that interested? I don't waste anymore. I get out of the situation.
Let me get this right. You like him and he likes you, and you want a relationship. So you start it out by putting up obstacles to having a relationship.
Yeah, I get it. You want 9 out of 10 possible suitors to just say &%@# it and go away, and maybe 1 in 10 will play your games and you might not annoy him away.
This is called playing games, or sometimes mind &%@#.
Who ever gave you this stupid idea? Whoever it is, quit listening to their romantic advice. It isn't going to work except on boys. I am using that term disparagingly.
It's a way for a woman to find out how much effort a guy will put into establishing, and later maintaining, a relationship. The concept is a good one, but I don't believe it helps, and it may hurt, to verbalize it to a guy. It is unnecessary to do so, anyway.
I have a different take on this. A successful relationship requires daily work and effort. That’s a behavior you have to establish day 1 in the relationship. It’s pretty much impossible to change the behavior after the fact. There are an awful lot of guys out there who will be totally happy to coast through a relationship where she does all the work. You don’t want to establish that pattern.
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