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How many times must this be explained to people?! The ABILITY to pay isn’t the issue, the EXPECTATION to pay is the damn issue just because by default men have to ask women out. Since we are two strangers meeting, I don’t know why we just can’t cover our OWN plates or do Dutch? What right does a woman have to expect me to pay for her damn dinner just because I asked her out?! If she wasn’t interested she could have just said no and not waste my time.
Because then there is no point in going out with you.
Because then there is no point in going out with you.
No one should be meeting for dinner anyway unless the guy suggest it. I have met for dinner the 1st meet because she lived out of town and was driving to meet me so whether it worked out or not the plan was the pay for dinner. If I met a woman who was local then it was a cafe not dinner.
I don’t do first date dinner dates, but if I ask a guy on a date I fully expect to foot the bill. If you can’t afford to take me to dinner... don’t ask me out to dinner and.... then come here and talk **** about me.
I can't use them. I have never been able to use them. Casual sex never did anything for me, so I have no use for it. I have specific rules for dating, so that I will never date a woman who hasn't been single --meaning not in a committed relationship -- for at least 6 months, and who has never lived alone (I consider having a girlfriend room-mate during college or after high school and starting their lives to be living alone).
That allows me to avoid relationship-jumpers, women who have zero self-esteem and whose whole world revolves around having a man attached to their hip every second of their lives. I don't have the inclination or time to waste to fix them, or deal with their emotional problems.
Women with low self-esteem will stay in a relationship even when their man is sleeping around, because they are too limited mentally and can't handle not being in a relationship, so any relationship, even a violent one, bad as it may be, is better than no relationship at all in their eyes.
Those are the women most likely to have an STD, and you can reduce your risk dramatically by simply avoiding them.
You clearly do not understand that some diseases persist for years or are incurable.
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Glad you have it all figured out! But what is the reason that you can’t use condoms? Just curious.
Probably wants the "feel" and is willing to take the risk.
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I guess I could but damn pizza now is not cheap lol. A movie ticket is also pricey unless you do Netflix.
Yes, but back then wages were lower. I'll bet if you took wages and the cost of pizza 20 years ago with wages and the cost of pizza today you'd find that it takes just the same amount of work time now or 20 years ago to pay for that pizza.
What people fail to understand is that both wages and prices rise by the same inflation statistics.
All of this boils down to: 1) If you don't want to spend money on dates, then don't date. 2) If you want to date, you must be willing to spend money. You cannot have it both ways.
There is a cost to everything in life. Just as you (hopefully) accept that you have to pay for your home, food, clothing, transportation, etc., so you should realize that you have to pay for some of another person's time.
Only you can decide whether dating is worth investing in, in order to meet new people and find someone you like and love, and who feels the same way about you.
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All of this boils down to: 1) If you don't want to spend money on dates, then don't date. 2) If you want to date, you must be willing to spend money. You cannot have it both ways.
There is a cost to everything in life. Just as you (hopefully) accept that you have to pay for your home, food, clothing, transportation, etc., so you should realize that you have to pay for some of another person's time.
Only you can decide whether dating is worth investing in, in order to meet new people and find someone you like and love, and who feels the same way about you.
Exactly. My dating money is just my entertainment money. I'm spending it on something. Last night it was a couple of drinks with someone, if not that, it would have been movie tickets, or entry to a show. Life costs money.
Glad you have it all figured out! But what is the reason that you can’t use condoms? Just curious.
I don't know that poster's reason, but I know two young women who are allergic to latex and were in pain from the condom irritating their tissues before they figured it out.
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damn issue just because by default men have to ask women out. Since we are two strangers meeting, I don’t know why we just can’t cover our OWN plates or do Dutch? What right does a woman have to expect me to pay for her damn dinner just because I asked her out?! If she wasn’t interested she could have just said no and not waste my time. 
Because then there is no point in going out with you.
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