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So, I was on another date, this time it was going well. We started talking and she said "... my best friend and I were talking, she's a swinger and she was talking about her experiences..." She then describes some of those experiences. Then she asks me point blank "Are you a swinger?" I said "No I'm not." which is the truth but I saw a frown on her face after that for a millisecond. Then I asked "Are you a swinger?" and she said "Of course not, just curious for my friend."
It was at this point that I realized that maybe she was the swinger and she was just trying to find out? The fact is I'm not a swinger but I've never really been given the chance. I'm open to the idea of a threesome at least but I was just being truthful.
She's asked me out for drinks again tonight and I'm debating about going. Before I go I need to formulate a plan for how I'll address this question if it crops up.
So if anyone is on here in the next couple hours please give some advice!
Was she talking about her "best friend" or was she talking about herself. If she was talking about her best friend, why would she bring up it at all. Her best friend isn't interested in me. It all seems so strange, need to get to the bottom of it all.
When I asked her she said it was for her friend not her. I can ask again though. Her story just doesn't make a whole lot of sense, it isn't relevant for the conversation.
These are some classy ladies you're meeting, cBach LOL
Anyway ... there's no way for us to know if she was being truthful to you.
The expression you briefly saw on her face could have merely been a reaction to YOUR body language or tone of voice when you replied. Who knows?
As for how to handle it going forward, you are an adult and should know your own personal values by now. You should be ready to respond with confidence when someone asks you a rude question like that. If you think you're open to something, you could say so, but what I like to do is stall for time by asking questions, which is always helpful for clear communication.
"What do you mean when you say 'swinger'?"
"How long have you known that friend?"
"Has she ever tried to include you in stuff like that? Did your exes?"
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