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Old 11-26-2018, 11:31 PM
 
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You’re so deep in the friendzone, she would probably send you nudes to get your approval before sending them off to other guys. No way you could handle this friendship.
Lol nah..But like I said breaking off a friendship because somebody doesn’t want to date me seems kinda immature and petty
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Old 11-26-2018, 11:37 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Yeah it can be a reminder that you weren’t good enough for that person.
How is that friendship? And how is any of it healthy?
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Old 11-26-2018, 11:42 PM
 
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How is that friendship? And how is any of it healthy?
That’s my own insecurities that’s not her fault..
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Old 11-26-2018, 11:46 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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That’s my own insecurities that’s not her fault..
Uh huh. Keep going. You’re getting warmer.

Let’s not act like this is some display of character for you. You’re willingly staying in an unhealthy situation because ...

Why?
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Old 11-26-2018, 11:50 PM
 
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Uh huh. Keep going. You’re getting warmer.

Let’s not act like this is some display of character for you. You’re willingly staying in an unhealthy situation because ...

Why?
I’m a loyal person..I’ve been told I was using her if i didn’t want to be friends with her just because she doesn’t want a relationship with me now im dumb for keeping her friendship.. I can’t win lol

I honestly care about her as a friend..she’s been through a lot and I feel sorry for her..

I think it’s selfish to cut ties just because she doesn’t want a relationship with me
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Old 11-26-2018, 11:55 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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I’m a loyal person..I’ve been told I was using her if i didn’t want to be friends with her just because she doesn’t want a relationship with me now im dumb for keeping her friendship.. I can’t win lol

I honestly care about her as a friend..she’s been through a lot and I feel sorry for her..

I think it’s selfish to cut ties just because she doesn’t want a relationship with me
The saddest part is that you think it’s about her rejection. It’s not.

You aren’t proving anything about loyalty by subjecting yourself to this. You should cut ties but not because of her rejection. It’s NOT about that. I don’t know why you can’t understand this.

Just ... Nevermind.
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Old 11-26-2018, 11:58 PM
 
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The saddest part is that you think it’s about her rejection. It’s not.

You aren’t proving anything about loyalty by subjecting yourself to this. You should cut ties but not because of her rejection. It’s NOT about that. I don’t know why you can’t understand this.

Just ... Nevermind.
Can you please tell me? Breaking my friendship off with her because of my insecurities makes no sense..

That’s my burden not hers..

If you’re talking about her bad decision making I don’t cut friends off for that

She was physically and sexually abused as a kid so I feel like that’s why her decision making is so bad..she’s been through a lot so I feel protective of her
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Old 11-27-2018, 12:02 AM
 
Location: Jupiter
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Honestly, nope.

But I'm married now so it doesn't make a difference.
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Old 11-27-2018, 01:36 AM
 
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I’m a loyal person..I’ve been told I was using her if i didn’t want to be friends with her just because she doesn’t want a relationship with me now im dumb for keeping her friendship.. I can’t win lol

I honestly care about her as a friend..she’s been through a lot and I feel sorry for her..

I think it’s selfish to cut ties just because she doesn’t want a relationship with me
You should cut ties with her because she'll NEVER see you as more than "just a friend"... and you'll ALWAYS want more from her, which means you're NOT being a friend to her.

You're on this carousel that's just spinning around and going nowhere. It's not emotionally healthy for either one of you.
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Old 11-27-2018, 05:15 AM
 
Location: Jacksonville
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I've only done it once and I guess we stayed friends for a little while longer after she rejected me. I wouldn't consider her a good friend, never would I consider her a good friend.

I would stay friends with someone if I got rejected by them, assuming they were already friends with me before I asked them out. If we weren't friends, I asked them out, they rejected me, then proposed friendship only? I would politely pass on that 100% of the time.

As far as your situation goes JBT, I don't think you can handle this with the woman you're speaking of. Better off to sever ties, dude.
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