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A female friend I was talking to, in her late 50s, lives near a major retirement community. Now, typical retirement age CAN go as far back as to someone in their 40s. Most men she meets in their 50s are retired, but quite frankly, these men expect her to be around her more frequently than she can afford...but she can't do that as she works a full time job...still.
And with the economy ,some people will be working until they are 6 feet under. WHo knows if soc. security income will even exist in the future.
That said, has anyone here experienced these out of sync retired vs. STILL working situations?
Last edited by PJSaturn; 11-29-2018 at 08:31 AM..
Reason: Edited thread title for clarification.
Mostly retired in their 50’s? I don’t know one person retired in their 50s. The closest situation I know, is a guy in his 50s who has 7 days off in a row twice a month. He takes a lot of trips, brags to me about having another day off while I’m at work..it gets a little irritating when always trying to brag about all that time off. I suppose that would be effective in making me jealous if I hated my job or wanted to retire. I don’t.
I could understand a disconnect in lifestyles that could impact feelings of compatibility.
I also think that most people who are retired, unless they are so old and/or debilitated that they can't do a lot anymore, really SHOULD do things outside of the home. It's the time to take classes that interest you, if you can afford it, or work a part time job that is not stressful, or to volunteer. I don't think it is mentally healthy for most people to hole up at home and disconnect from the world, especially if they substitute real life interaction with screens. Engaging with the world only through the internet...it's too easy to get a warped view of how people are, how the world outside is. I had a front row seat to that sht show with my ex. He was ~ok~ until he got medically retired from the military, and it was being at home all the time that really made a mess of him. I think that even if he hadn't picked up some substance abuse habits during that time, he'd still not have been mentally or emotionally healthy. And a big part of it, was feeling a lack of identity and purpose. You only get such things by getting out there and DOING STUFF.
So even more than a matter of working vs not working, or a difference in free time, I think that if one person is more engaged with the world and the other stays home most of the time, there will be a big gap in mentalities there.
Yes, this is a legitimate issue in dating. I retired at 61. Currently dating a guy who still works FT and it does limit our time together, especially since he works an evening shift for a call line dealing with people's questions on Medicare and SS. I've seen some Match.com profiles from retirees specifically wanting people who are also retired. I'm pretty independent and don't want to be glued to someone 24/7 so I'm more interested in the person than in his availability.
Mostly retired in their 50’s? I don’t know one person retired in their 50s. The closest situation I know, is a guy in his 50s who has 7 days off in a row twice a month. He takes a lot of trips, brags to me about having another day off while I’m at work..it gets a little irritating when always trying to brag about all that time off. I suppose that would be effective in making me jealous if I hated my job or wanted to retire. I don’t.
There are millions of people interested in retiring in their 30s, 40s, and 50s. There are people doing it. 50s isn't uncommon at all in some circles, even those not pursuing "early" retirement. Law enforcement and fire fighter types, for example.
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