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My bf have been together several years. We have broken up a few times and during some of those times I did date others that he is aware of.
He is putting pressure on me to move in my home and marry me next year.
I haven’t been comfortable with this idea because of our different finances (he has very little but I am very comfortable from working and saving) but we do love each other and get along.
Yesterday he said he is always worried I am looking or someone else that is “better” for me. He knows my daughter doesn’t care for him and does feel I should find someone more compatible in terms of education (I’m a lawyer) and finances.
My heart is saying don’t leave him but my head is telling me to leave because I may regret it if I don’t.
My daughter will be coming in next week for the holiday and he is expecting to see her but she doesn’t want to.
Any thoughts?
Last edited by Uncertaintyforfuture; 12-17-2018 at 05:33 AM..
My bf have been together several years. We have broken up a few times and during some of those times I did date others that he is aware of.
He is putting pressure on me to move in my home and marry me next year.
I haven’t been comfortable with this idea because of our different finances (he has very little but I am very comfortable from working and saving) but we do love each other and get along.
Yesterday he said he is always worried I am looking or someone else that is “better” for me. He knows my daughter doesn’t care for him and does feel I should find someone more compatible in terms of education (I’m a lawyer) and finances.
My heart is saying don’t leave him but my head is telling me to leave because I may regret it if I don’t.
My daughter will be coming in next week for the holiday and he is expecting to see her but she doesn’t want to.
Any thoughts?
Mod cut. do not marry this man or let him move into your home.
Mod cut.
Last edited by PJSaturn; 12-17-2018 at 08:52 AM..
Reason: Off-topic.
Absolutely not! There is no reason to change anything. Don't let anyone rush you into to making huge life changes. Think how this will affect your daughter.
First off, why would you force your daughter to see someone she doesn't like especially during the holidays? Go spend some time with your daughter without him. And no, don't move in with him or marry him. Why you are there I have no idea.
Why do you keep asking this question over and over? You're educated enough to be an attorney. Surely you can make up your own mind.
Yeah, especially when the "problem" is so simple and solving it requires just a little bit of common sense.
Ask your friends, other lawyers if you still can't come up with a solution to this dilemma, not random strangers on a internet board...
My bf have been together several years. We have broken up a few times and during some of those times I did date others that he is aware of.
He is putting pressure on me to move in my home and marry me next year.
I haven’t been comfortable with this idea because of our different finances (he has very little but I am very comfortable from working and saving) but we do love each other and get along.
Yesterday he said he is always worried I am looking or someone else that is “better” for me. He knows my daughter doesn’t care for him and does feel I should find someone more compatible in terms of education (I’m a lawyer) and finances.
My heart is saying don’t leave him but my head is telling me to leave because I may regret it if I don’t.
My daughter will be coming in next week for the holiday and he is expecting to see her but she doesn’t want to.
Any thoughts?
It really depends. Is he trying to better himself? Going to school? Starting a business working for himself?
When my wife and I met we were ina similar situation. I didn’t make a lot of money but I did have some assets and I worked hard. I was starting my own business and money was tight.
He’s worried that you’re looking for someone else.......there Is a reason for that.
If he’s just loafing around playing XBox all day.......Go with what your head is telling you.
What I would ask myself is why did I break up with this person over the years/months? Those reasons yo7 broke up are the exact reasons why you will file and get divorced later. Except now you’re splitting your assets or some value of those assets
. I hope you’re smart enough to have a prenup in case you go through with it
You say you get along but you have broken up afew times. He is pressuring you. What a nice attribute.
Use your brain. This is not a good decision to make based on emotion. Nor is it a good decision to make based on pressure.
Has your daughter said what it is that she doesn't like about him? Listen to your daughter.
If you decide to marry this guy get a prenup. I have a friend that sure wishes she'd got one and she was only married to him for four years. You are a lawyer, how would you advise someone in your position?
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