ok when I meet new guys for dating, relationships, and FWB or friends (no sex) are you supposed to call them once a month or so just to let them know you are still interested in them....
for example I've made many new friends at the bar I go to since there isn't any other place to find gays ....so I don't really call them ever, but I do text them to say hi or happy holiday or what are you doing this weekend every once a week or twice a month etc. not often....just to stay in touch. Before I know it, none of them are responding back and I don't get phone calls. Talking on the phone is a huge hassle for some of them.
I'm just wondering am I going about doing this correctly in making new friends or am I sending off the message that I don't like them?
Another example: I had made a new friend from the bar. I talked with him over the phone about once a week for two months. We always kept it clean and I reminded him that I don't do one night stands and I am seeing if he can be a friend to me. This was one of the few guys that could actually have a telephone conversation. What a diamond in the rough! lol...<sarcasm>
I invited him over to party with me, eat or go out and he always declined. Finally he said he has to be in town for a personal/business situation. So he came over and I offered drinks and watched tv etc, relaxed etc. Then out of nowhere he starts putting the moves on me, starts becoming sexual, takign off his shirt, and annoying me etc. I made myself clear that him and I were only friends. And I rejected all his advances. Then he switched gears and started talking about his troubeling childhood and his issues with being a homosexual and issues with vanity, then he started crying and whining. It was awful! Then he said he would never visit me again. I was like WTH.
Am I just being stupid and picking dumb and weird people to be my friends? LOL ...... seriously I've been around, mingling, and networking and what not and it just isn't working for me in this town. lol
Also another guy I met. He said he wanted to be FWB. I was like cool. He was so charming, and polite and very handsome and darling. I did not get the creeps from him, although he told me he knew people in the escort business, perhaps that was a red flag?? So I invited him over one night. We slept together and had very safe sex (no intercourse/no oral). He was wonderful. The next afternoon I asked him when we could hang out he said "whenever" (not in a rude way either) I was like cool. I sent him one text message about 10 days later and never heard back from him. I am not whining or sad about this, a bit disappointed, but over it since my expectations are super low and I did not expect him to follow through considering the awesome track record of gay men. Right!!
So you can see where I am at in my life. It is pretty pathetic. Hence, my reason to find a better area where I can meet gays outside of a bar scene.
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