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No, thats not cheating, cmon, some girls act like they have brad pitts at home. First of all, its just a freakin picture, and second of all, most if not all the girls we fantasize about, theres no chance in hell, we could have a chance with, cmon, get serious!
I know this will sound like a dumb question .... but if there's no chance in hell you could have a chance with them, why fantasize about them? Why not fantasize about women that one has a chance with?
Cheating it obviously isn't, but I wouldn't like it. I don't know... I haven't encountered any of these obsessed with pictures/porn/you name it men and really wouldn't want them in my life... It's not that I'm a prude, but I feel I should be enough.
I'm much on the same page as you here, but I also understand different strokes for different folks.
I know many married couples where both enjoy the fantasy world.....
1) It sounds like you have very low self esteem
2) You call these women his "fantasy" woman and you have told them you will never look like them. Just because he looks at this pictures does not mean that his is wanting to be with them or wanting you to look like them.
IT is not cheating, and it is not a big deal unless you make it a big deal. I can't imagine how exhausting it would be to constantly be trying to "catch" him in the act.
You should take some sexy pictures of yourself and give those to him to look at.
then why look at the pictures at all? you say that this does not mean that he is wanting to be with them or wanting her to look like them ... what is he getting out of looking at them? how does she know that he doesn't want her to look like them?
You really don't know women very well, do you? Aren't you a woman? There was one man I loved that, no matter what other man crossed my path, he couldn't turn my head. Being with this man was like just getting up from the table and being full; no matter what good food someone puts in front of you, it just doesn't look good b'c you're satisfied. It does happen. Never underestimate the power of a woman's love for her man.
I don't believe he understands women very well ... but then I also don't believe he can speak for every man either
Agreed....although I feel that fantasizing is the first step on the way to cheating. It starts in the mind.
I also don't understand the justification that these are women he'd never have a chance with IRL....and somehow that makes it better?
The range of opinions on this subject is interesting. You have this post then you have some females posting that porn is the equivelent to the "Original Sin."
Odd.
The range is very diverse ... which is a good reason why people should be on the same page as their partner when it comes to such things.
I wouldn't be involved with a man who was that disrespectful to me and other women in general. If he is still looking around then he shouldn't have settled on me.
I would roll him out the door because behaviors like this don't change.
Im sorry but all men are like this just some are more obvious than others.
What is the big deal anyways. Why is it disrespectful to look at a womans body?
I dont get it.
why do you get to speak for all men? you've met them all? discussed this with them all?
i hate it to, but do agree with most on here, almost all men do it, its a rare breed that finds his woman good enough to not look. I can handle the occasional glance, i can handle watching porn or reading playboy together, cuz its TOGETHER....but when they have to sneak around or fill their phones with pics, then id want to know why, cuz this usually leads to affairs.
my hubby looks way more then he should, but i get even...i will gawk to, and he doesnt like it....lol, gosh forbid if someone looks at his woman....but he will look at other women....go figure.
if he is open with you and doesnt do it alot, relax, maybe even ask him about it, maybe you could fullfill whatever fantisy he may be having.....but if he is hiding it, and its getting to me alot, well....you might want to move on to someone who will appreciate what he has...you
my ex was also funny in that he would look at other women, but he'd get quite upset whenever another guy looked at me. and God forbid they should talk to me..............
My fear is that the looking will lead to cheating...any thoughts?
sometimes yes. sometimes no.
but that depends more on the person than the looking....
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