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We're in our early 70s and have been married for almost 50 years. Both retired. My husband began taking yoga and meditation classes about 6 mos. ago. Great, it's good for his balance, stretching, serenity. He started out going once a week and now goes every day, sometimes twice a day. That's good too, glad he enjoys it. He's always been neat and clean, well dressed, but his grooming habits have greatly accelerated since he started these classes. Things he never did before, like scented oils, derm visits, nose hairs clipped, beard groomed every day, moisturizing lotion. Even works on his foot calluses. Also new clothes and more dental cleaning and hair cuts. Nice, but I'm wondering why the abrupt switch. Anything to be concerned about? At my age, I don't want a divorce or to face financial uncertainty.
We're in our early 70s and have been married for almost 50 years. Both retired. My husband began taking yoga and meditation classes about 6 mos. ago. Great, it's good for his balance, stretching, serenity. He started out going once a week and now goes every day, sometimes twice a day. That's good too, glad he enjoys it. He's always been neat and clean, well dressed, but his grooming habits have greatly accelerated since he started these classes. Things he never did before, like scented oils, derm visits, nose hairs clipped, beard groomed every day, moisturizing lotion. Even works on his foot calluses. Also new clothes and more dental cleaning and hair cuts. Nice, but I'm wondering why the abrupt switch. Anything to be concerned about? At my age, I don't want a divorce or to face financial uncertainty.
I casually told him a couple times he seemed to be taking a little extra interest in his appearance. He smiled and said he doesn't want to look like a slob in class. Of course I don't mind his extra grooming, it's nice, but I wonder if he's begun an affair or wants to start one. A crush on a classmate or even a light flirtation is one thing, nothing to get upset about, but if he wants one last big romance, well, that won't help our marriage, which has been pretty good for the most part.
He may have a crush on the yoga instructor or classmate, but I don't see it going any further. I always say "I'm married but I'm not dead", so a crush would change his attitude about his appearance, perhaps taking him out of a slump/the dumps and making him feel good/better about himself. JMO.
Spruced up looks are great, I enjoy the results. Not concerned about physical cheating but emotional. Also don't want our fixed income, which needs to be stretched carefully, to go out on another woman. Priorities change greatly when you enter your 70s, health care and assisted living loom large. Financially, we don't have a lot of room to stretch around in.
Spruced up looks are great, I enjoy the results. Not concerned about physical cheating but emotional. Also don't want our fixed income, which needs to be stretched carefully, to go out on another woman. Priorities change greatly when you enter your 70s, health care and assisted living loom large. Financially, we don't have a lot of room to stretch around in.
Those are valid concerns. I get that the gear isn't always so agreeable as men age. The emotional affairs can be very hurtful too.
Why don't you have a conversation with him about this, as awkward as it might be, it could be beneficial to you.
Maybe he feels good now. Maybe he feels renewed and cares about himself now. You should compliment him and join him.
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