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I am 34.She is 23.
We met and gelled. She is great but then I got to know she's well over a decade younger. She has absolutely zero problems, and honest to God we have a lot in common and great time together. But I have never known or seen anyone in real life(not online or celebrities) with this huge a gap. I also fear her friends might tell her it's wrong. To make things worse I am an alumni of the college she's in now so I get that strange feeling occasionally.
Guess I'd aim this query at women here. Would you have considered a 11 year older man when you were in your early 20s? Should I not think too much over this?
I see age gaps like this all the time. Just don’t worry about it. You’re overthinking this.
“I also fear her friends might tell her it’s wrong” I fear I may never see my wife again because I may be in a plane crash on my way home or the world may end before I see her again, but I don’t think about it too much.
I am 34.She is 23.
We met and gelled. She is great but then I got to know she's well over a decade younger. She has absolutely zero problems, and honest to God we have a lot in common and great time together. But I have never known or seen anyone in real life(not online or celebrities) with this huge a gap. I also fear her friends might tell her it's wrong. To make things worse I am an alumni of the college she's in now so I get that strange feeling occasionally.
Guess I'd aim this query at women here. Would you have considered a 11 year older man when you were in your early 20s? Should I not think too much over this?
What's the saying? "Don't borrow trouble"? If everything is fine and you like each other, see how it goes.
I personally am not interested in men way older than me. 5 yrs is my limit. But what I do and what she does are two very different things. If you guys are good, don't worry about it. Sounds like you're trying convince us everything is fine. It's strange.
I’m 69 and my husband is a bit younger. I always dated around my age. Now I am very glad that I did, because now my friends, who married much older men, are either widows or caregivers.
I find it a bit amusing when people list their criteria for who they’re looking for ... and the list goes all to he$$ when that person who makes their heart skip a beat enters their life. Lists and logic seems to fly out the window.
The issue here, of course, is life stages... if she doesn't have a good (and well-paying) steady job already and getting established in life, it'll feel a bit awkward for you. I wouldn't go back to that life stage even vicariously if it were me, but maybe she got to skip that part and go straight to "good job, no worries." in which case there's less issue.
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