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I personally know several people who were living paycheck to paycheck who considered getting a divorce but couldn't come up with the $4,000 to $6,000 cash as a retainer for the divorce attorney. If you and your spouse can barely pay the rent on one apartment how in the world will each of you pay for your own apartment and your own utilities?
I personally know several people who were living paycheck to paycheck who considered getting a divorce but couldn't come up with the $4,000 to $6,000 cash as a retainer for the divorce attorney. If you and your spouse can barely pay the rent on one apartment how in the world will each of you pay for your own apartment and your own utilities?
Yeah others in the thread have suggested the same, but if you're really poor what is there to divide? It's not really expensive to file at the local clerk of court, and you don't have to really be apart 12 months you just have to say so.
I think it costs less than $100.00 to actually do it and then you wait for the judge to review it.. All you do is start it at the clerk of court with fee in hand..
*mutually* supportive relationships make a big difference. struggling together with a mutually shared goal of a better quality of life matters in the long run.
Great question, because there is no perfect timing. It's through thick & thin!
Getting married when you're both broke shows how well committed you both are on the same team. Most marriages like these last even longer, because there's a sense of genuine devotion of life as a journey, not some easily discardable piece of dirt you can just chuck apart and move on so easily from. There's more substance to be gained when you both had to struggle for what you dreamt of to make things work out ultimately, til death do us part.
I don't know if that's necessarily true. However, money is the biggest cause of marital strife. I think that in marriages between mature couples, being kind of poor forces mature people to work more closely in terms of communication and collaboration--the real keys to success in marriage. My wife and I were constantly broke the first few years of our marriage. But we slowly over time saved, invested, and earned more. To this day, the habits we learned early in our marriage predominate.
On the other hand, if you're poor and blow your money on stupid things, it's going to blow up your marriage in a hurry. We were friends with a couple where she was a nurse and he was a guy who drifted from job to job. Tracy was a great guy, but he was always in this state of perpetual adolescence. The last straw for her was when their daughter broke her arm and she couldn't pay the copay at the ER. Why? Because her husband had maxed out their credit cards buying concert tickets.
We are by no means like the freaks you see on the frugal living page, the ones who drink from the same pot of coffee three days in a row, but we also live way beneath our means. Despite having a household income that would put us in the 2-3% top earnings range, we drive base model cars (Camry and CRX). Now that our kids have (almost) all moved out, we ditched the 3,500 sf house in the nice suburb and live in a 1,400 sf condominium. We have investments that give us quarterly dividends and we save every dime I make from my business, living off her salary alone.
To me, marriage is above all things a partnership. Doesn't take the romance out of the equation. But you have to treat this enterprise as that of building a life together. And money is one of the key essentials to being successful at doing so.
If you learn how to live on less, it makes you stronger. And if when married you are poor but things gradually improve, you maybe associate it with you marriage. I've heard that those who got married during the Great Depression had marriages that lasted longer because life kept getting better for 40 years.
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