Falling hard.. help (how to, women, young, friend)
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You're her client.
She works there.
She's just doing her job. SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND.
Logically you know this is not a good opportunity and you're likely projecting your old feelings from your last relationship on to her. You know what you need to do. Look for another trainer and distance yourself.
Good lord, go after single people. How would you feel if a dude thought about your future girlfriend that way?
I had a married man hit on me via social media. He was a classmate from school. My response,"Yeah how's your wife? How's your kids?" He said,"Sorry for bothering you"
The thing is when men or women are unhappy in our life we go searching for a source that may change your life whether it's bad or good for you.
My friend this is a form of depression and noone can fix it but you. Give yourself more time to heal from the last relationship.
You are young,you will find many more loves. Dont go after lust or obsessions. Go after single ladies that compliment you and better you. Good luck! The love life world and dating world is fun and rough.
I don't think this is the case. I spent a lot of my life in fantasy relationships of unrequited love. It was about me, not them. It was a fantasy I wanted, an escape from real life and real love. For me the ones who felt so right really reminded me of someone or something, the unrequited but all-powerful love was what I was in love with, it wasn't the person. Even rejection felt "right" to me, so not all of us can safely go by what feels "right".
Is this a girl you have a realistic chance with, or is she popular head cheerleader type while you're chess club guy with few friends? Hate to use high school analogy, but just saw so many waste their time on fantasy girls (and guys in my case) they never had a realistic chance with.
With regards the bottom paragraph, not the case at all. If anything closer to the other way around. She sort of turned her life around after unpleasant school years with social anxiety and shyness. She was overweight, no confidence, struggled to integrate etc but one day decided to do something about it. The main reason my attraction to her has grown is her personality. I’m past the stage of falling for the most popular attractive girl.
If she really liked you she would have said she broke up with her boyfriend. She left. That means she doesn’t want you around pursuing her.
Not at all the case. She left for the sake of her own career. She asked me to transfer with her. I have given the impression that I am so obsessed and hover around her making it obvious. That’s not accurate, I’ve played it very cool and done my best not to display it at all.
DO not give a woman so much influence that your happiness depends on her. This being petrified is a sign your core masculinity is not fully mature. When your core masculinity is mature, you are focused on your life purpose <--and that is what makes you mature and happy. Then invite an available woman to share your happiness with her, in a way that makes her happy that you are happy on your own.
Do not tell her anything. Bty I bet she already knows how you feel because I bet you are acting sometimes like teenager around her. Telling her how you feel will have no positive effect on her.
That said, it's possible she will break up one day with her bf. However, don't wait for that to happen.
Remain silent and act normal as possible around her. How much longer with the PT? Once that ends you won't see her anymore.
So basically when she was on shift before/after workouts I’d sit in reception and the conversation would flow. Sometimes this would end up hours. She’d seek me out whilst I was working out for a chat too. Then we’d have coffee and chill after my PT sessions too and have been messaging outside of that also.
She may have some small indication that I’m keen, but I highly doubt she knows how I feel properly because although you may struggle to believe it from how I speak I’ve done a very good job of hiding that and have played it more in a jokey/friend type of style.
I have no evidence she has taken a full interest in me but read signs like how she is always inquisitive about my life, is clearly keen to engage with me and I’ve made her laugh to the point of crying on a couple of occasions 😂
basically when she was on shift before/after workouts I’d sit in reception and the conversation would flow. Sometimes this would end up hours. She’d seek me out whilst I was working out for a chat too. Then we’d have coffee and chill after my PT sessions too and have been messaging outside of that also.
She knows you like her.
Only guys who are into you do this ^^ kind of thing.'
Honestly, it sounds like she crossed a line and led you on. It's not cool.
You need to be glad she's moved to another gym and let her get her **** straight.
Hmmm now you have me doubting. Is it not possible then that a girl can just see a guy as a good friend? Is it always flirting?
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