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I have been dating this guy for some time now... and I quite enjoy our time together, however I can not help but feeling confused at how he has been acting recently:
1. We recently had a nice serious conversation about our relationship, we have been getting progressively busy at work, and school, and we had not seen each other nor talked for about 15 days. We decided we really liked each other, and if we were serious about spending time together we would work it out somehow, he even suggested we should call/text each more often and pick a day a week that would be "our day" to spend together no matter what.
This was about 2 weeks or so ago.
2. Since then when we are together, he is quite sweet, attentive and treats me as his girlfriend. However, when we are apart he is really short, and cold when we talk on the phone or we text. He has not initiated any of the contact, I am always the one having to remind him that I do exist
3. He has recently cancelled on me last minute, the last one was this past weekend, he said he would pick me up on Saturday after work, and at around 4:30, about 2-3 hours overdue, he texted saying he could not make it, that he was feeling so sick that morning that he had to go to the hospital and was just getting back...
I obviously understood, nobody "schedules" to get sick, right? when I asked him if he needed anything, he said he just wanted to go home and sleep... completely understandable... right?
The next day we got together and he told me he had hang out with his buddied the night before!!!!!! I was so upset, and to tell you the thruth a bit hurt, last I heard from him he was sick as a dog and did not want to hang out with me!!! but oh the surprise as soon as his friends called him out he was all of the sudden not sick anymore? what kind of bs is this?
Am I been too insensitive? or rather too sensitive to this situation? I am really confused as to his mixed signals... he is the one who brought up our not spending enough time together, and when I was about ready to call it quits if that is what he wanted, he was adamant at the fact that he did not want to break up, he even said he LOVED spending time with me and that he had missed me the time we did not see each other.
I am so sorry. This guy sounds like a total JERK! I am not sure how old you are, or this guy....but his behavior is really childish. You need to kick him to the curb!
umm he seem not very interested in you if he would ditch you to hang with his friends and seems to be lying to you so unlees you like to be treated like cRap then ditch him.
The next day we got together and he told me he had hang out with his buddied the night before!!!!!! I was so upset, and to tell you the thruth a bit hurt, last I heard from him he was sick as a dog and did not want to hang out with me!!! but oh the surprise as soon as his friends called him out he was all of the sudden not sick anymore? what kind of bs is this?
This part really sums up everything. He couldn't make time for you, but he could for his buddies. I seriously doubt he was in the hospital to begin with.
I'll tell you like I tell every other girl that asks these questions. Men will treat you how you demand to be treated. If you let him blow you off at the last minute, lie to you and not call you then that is exactly what we're going to do unless you put your foot down. Then he'll either change his ways or leave.
Now you have to decide if you want to give him an ultimatum and a chance to change, or if you just want to leave all together.
yep, agree with everyone else!...he lied to you, he had time for the friends when he was too sick for you. That's a huge red flag if ever there was one..get rid of him, he just wants his cake and eat it too, why should you not deserve the best in life?
Time to find someone who will treat you better than this jerk. Once people start telling lies in relationships, it's time to get out. Obviously he wasn't THAT sick.
I'm sorry, and I know it sounds cliche, and I know you've probably heard this before, but he's just not that into you. I know I get tired of hearing that (I'm in the same boat) - but I'd rather someone be honest with me instead of living in denial and being hurt further on down the road.
Put some distance between you and him. Don't call, don't text, don't go see him, don't email him. If he is interested, he'll come back. Trust me on this one. And I know it's hard, but you can do it.
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I was so upset, and to tell you the thruth a bit hurt, last I heard from him he was sick as a dog and did not want to hang out with me!!! but oh the surprise as soon as his friends called him out he was all of the sudden not sick anymore? what kind of bs is this? 
And I know it's hard, but you can do it.
