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I work with this guy, and it's pretty clear he likes me. He stares at me when he thinks I'm not looking, and then when I catch him, he looks away. The other day I was sitting next to him in a meeting, and his hands were so sweaty, they left the table wet. He can't look me in the eye. Around other people, he avoids and ignores me, but is nice to me when no one else is around.
He sent me a message on Facebook today about something relevant to our work. I replied and thanked him, and then said I'd love to pick his brain [about the topic we were discussing] sometime. Then I sent another message and said I hoped it didn't sound too weird. He replied and said it didn't sound weird, he was just busy at an event, so hadn't had time to reply.
I don't understand - he's showing signs of interest, but doesn't seem interested in even hanging out outside of work. I'm considering asking him out. Maybe just as friends to begin. I don't want to make things at work awkward.
Should I ask him out? If so, how should I do it? What do you suggest?
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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I’d suggest not pursuing this since you both work together. If it gets awkward, having to see each other at work every day makes it a hell of a lot worse.
I’d suggest not pursuing this since you both work together. If it gets awkward, having to see each other at work every day makes it a hell of a lot worse.
I guess you're right, but I really like him! I think we would complement each other well. I just don't understand why he hasn't taken up the opportunity to spend time together.
I definitely make him nervous, but I'm not sure if it's because he likes me (or not). I don't see why else I would make him nervous.
He may be nervous because he senses you really like him and you’re about to ask him out. Unless he’s dropped any hints about getting together socially, then risking the working relationship really isn’t worth it.
You told him you’d like to get together or “pick his brain” about a common interest. He didn’t reply immediately. Think about if it were the other way around wouldn’t you have taken that opportunity to name a place and time or be more encouraging about getting together? He didn’t.
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I don't understand - he's showing signs of interest, but doesn't seem interested in even hanging out outside of work.
I don't want to make things at work awkward.
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Originally Posted by seekingadvice1990
I just don't understand why he hasn't taken up the opportunity to spend time together.
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Originally Posted by seekingadvice1990
What makes you think that?
See above.
Perhaps he even likes you but is smart enough to know not to start any romantic relationships at work.
BTW: we need more info - age, position at work (is he your superior?). What do you know about him? Is he married? Dating someone?
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