Should I give him a second chance? Getting serious mixed signals

[zentropa]

WTF is "cuddling"?

[gentlearts]

Originally Posted by Genz

I met a guy a few years ago and we hit it off. I thought there was a lot of chemistry and had a good time with him when we were together. However it never progressed to a relationship and we never even got physical. One thing though was that he always wanted me to come to his place and cuddle, even though I would suggest date ideas. Or he would ask me then cancel.

Then one day he cancels on me and we don't get together again despite me reaching out. So I look at his social media and it seemed he had several women interested. Oh well I delete his number and move on.

Cut to a few months ago when he showed up on several of my social media accounts. He was liking me and my posts. At first I just ignored him. He continued to do that and match with me on sites. Then out of pure curiosity I liked him back and he messaged me that he missed me and wanted to talk. So he asks me to come over for dinner and cuddling and tells me he's not dating anyone. But looking at his social media it seems like there is someone else.

But really that doesn't matter because since then he's gone back to being unavailable and canceling plans. I really was hoping because he said he missed me that things would be different and start progressing. I was really hoping this would develop into a relationship. Should I tell him this? Or should I just delete his number again or something else?

Are you really conflicted about this? If you are, I doubt you will follow our advice anyway.

[K12144]

Dude was a flake. What was so great about him that you're still into him enough that you're willing to be flaked out on again months later?

I mean, he flaked out on you, you figured out it was because of other women... now he's back. Probably because those other women dumped him and he had to hope he still had you on the back burner. This is what you want?

Originally Posted by Genz

How can I tell him I don't want to just come over and hang out. I already suggested date ideas and that doesn't work.

You trying to suggest other things to do WAS you telling him you don't just want to come over and hang out. The two of you clearly want different things; how do you suppose that will bode for a relationship?