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MinivanDriver · 09-26-2022, 06:03 AM

I didn't even read it. I saw the wall of words and knew that the OP had a convoluted mess on his hands.

But when I caught the age difference, I knew it was doomed.

OP, the longer it takes to describe a relationship problem, the more likely it can't be resolved. I can't say this enough: Relationships should be easy. If your relationship has drama, then you don't have a relationship.

RbccL · 09-26-2022, 06:25 AM

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I saw her and some random guy sitting on the curb and talking. My emotions took over, and I asked her to the side- Who is this? What is going on? Not even a week after we broke up? She did not want to talk about it and I left.

Did you join them on the curb and start demanding Who is this? Or stay on the sidewalk and make her get up to come explain to you why she was talking to a man, even though she wasn’t your girlfriend?

Also, what country are you in? In the USA one can get into a lot of trouble inviting minors over to drink alcohol, it’s really not a good look for a guy almost 10 years older to be doing any of that.

You’re being obsessive and overbearing, it’s no coincidence that you happen to keep walking by her house. It’s kind of creepy. IMO: Just leave her alone, and find a new route to walk since you went to the trouble of moving right by her.

MadGuyInWisconsin · 09-26-2022, 06:49 AM

I think you have acted a bit needy and should refocus on yourself. Find a new hobby, join Meetup.com, get out and meet other people with similar interests. It sounds like you keep dwelling on this woman. I have been there myself and can tell you it's unhealthy as hell, but doing the things I mentioned in the second sentence will help tremendously.

It's not going to be easy and it will take some time, but you will get to that point. I still struggle with this at times, but always evaluate what you (and learn from it) did wrong and reach out like you did here. Yes, there is some harsh criticism here but I think most of it is warranted and is meant to help keep you from making the same mistakes.

I wish you the best of luck.