Does this seem one sided to you?

[Mielinacea]

Why would you want a partner who’s unwilling to pleasure you?

Get out now, before you go further and feel even more unfulfilled.

[Hankrigby]

Originally Posted by Genz

If your partner wants you to pleasure them but they don't want to pleasure you. Is it one sided?And what would you say to get it to change without making it seem like it's transactional or conditional. Like not saying you'll only pleasure them only with certain conditions.

Well all relationships are transactional that's what a relationship is. I would just say I'm not doing it anymore and if they leave good.

[CyclingChemist]

Yes I feel such an extreme need to take care of my partner that I would not be able to enjoy it if I didn't. Your partner sounds like a narcissist and a user.

[Mister68]

I've always been a ladies first kinda guy, maybe I'm just old fashioned that way

[K12144]

What's the point of telling them you won't do anything for them in return? Just walk away. Anyone like that isn't likely to change with a "discussion" (unless there's some sort of odd miscommunication where they haven't a clue what you want and are afraid to either ask or just try things), and if it gets to the point that you have to start playing games, there's no longer much point in the relationship.