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No and no. Just being honest. I'm not saying every chick I date has to be a supermodel, far from it, but in my mind there has to be at least a decent level of physical attraction for something to work. If you look at your date and say "meh" or worse, "ugh" then things just won't work out. Call me superficial if you want, but I do think its important.
Also no and no. There's nothing wrong with that either. Everyone has a different view of what they find attractive. What doesn't work for me works for someone else.
Of course it's important. Physcial attraction is the thing that sparks interest, but for a long term relationship to work, there has to be more. People have to be intelligent; they have to share common goals and outlooks; and they have to have personality traits that appeal to the other person.
Having said all of that, as much as we try to deny or hide it, we're animals in the scientific sense of the word, and we're instinctually programmed to seek out mates with certain physical traits that excite us and get us to mate to keep the species going.
Interestingly enough, if you are truly attracted to someone, you find them attractive regardless.
I can look at my husband, who turned 60 this Spring, and he still 'does it for me' -- looks every bit as cute as he did in college with his shoulder-length dark hair and thick mustache. I have noticed that when we are at a party, or something, and become separated, I can glance around the room, find him, and my heart still skips a beat.
He tells me it the same for me, that I still 'do it for him,' which makes me feel so much better about no longer being svelte, and having dark hair down my back, either.
I suppose if you are truly in love with the person, it is the person you are attracted to, and not the looks. Just out of curiosity, does the person smell 'good' to you? I read that somewhere and found it most interesting. I love the way this man smells, and he, me.
I have dated men who had great, funny and "attractive" personalities. Some of them grew on me in time. But ultimately, I needed to feel that physical attraction to take things further. If I didn't feel physically attractive to them, they would go on my "friends" list. We all know that most men do not want to be just friends...
Sweet, wanna be my wingman? I'll "take one for the team" and take the hot chick.
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