Is there anyone in the same boat as I am? (date, how to)
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I just want to kind of make sure I'm not all alone in the way my situation is...
I'm 26 years old, female and single. Never been married and no children.
I feel like I am alone all the time!!! A lot of my friends are either in relationships or are married with kids. I don't have much fun hanging out with my friends' kids, cause I'm not around kids much and have no clue how to be around kids...plus I cannot relate to marriage, cause I've never been married before!
I have dated a lot, but I always seem to attract losers! I don't know why, because I'm an attractive girl, with a lot of really great qualities. I'm responsible and I have a really great career. I've decided to stop looking for a relationship and just focus on my career because it's very important to me...but jeez, I don't want to be alone forever!
So basically, I'm wondering if anyone else is out there, male or female, that is the only single one all the time and ends up spending a lot of time by yourself. I go everywhere alone, sometimes it's ok, but all the time?? I don't want it to be all the time. I really try to stay positive by telling myself it's making me a more well rounded person, more independent and getting to know myself better. Ok, I get it, I'm independent, and I know myself pretty damn well by now! Lol. So what should I do about finding others like me?? Thanks for any and all input!
I'm single and have been, probably as much as I've been with someone. I've grown to like it - after years of wondering what was up. These days I hang out with a lot of other permanently single friends, along with a few marrieds and couples. Seems I have more fun than the average person out there.
I have my own house, a cool job, pretty much everything I want within reason. So if there's no man in my life now, it doesn't mean there won't be one in the future. They come and they go. A lot of times I'm the one who decides I'm not interested in what they have to offer. Sometimes it's the other way around. Not too sad. If that's the worst thing life throws at me, life is still very, very good.
As for you, missy, it's okay to feel odd - but there's nothing wrong with you. You're just not the average girl. Actually, single women might be more common than not, these days.
Men will notice it if you're single. You have to put yourself into social AND professional situations and build yourself a nest of friends. If you're looking for a man, try to dress a little sexy - and flirt when it's appropriate. For some reason, they like it. You will meet nice guys, especially if you're looking for them.
OH, I can identify with the loser problem. AARGH. LOL
I just want to kind of make sure I'm not all alone in the way my situation is...
I'm 26 years old, female and single. Never been married and no children.
I feel like I am alone all the time!!! A lot of my friends are either in relationships or are married with kids. I don't have much fun hanging out with my friends' kids, cause I'm not around kids much and have no clue how to be around kids...plus I cannot relate to marriage, cause I've never been married before!
I have dated a lot, but I always seem to attract losers! I don't know why, because I'm an attractive girl, with a lot of really great qualities.
I'm responsible and I have a really great career. I've decided to stop looking for a relationship and just focus on my career because it's very important to me...but jeez, I don't want to be alone forever!
So basically, I'm wondering if anyone else is out there, male or female, that is the only single one all the time and ends up spending a lot of time by yourself. I go everywhere alone, sometimes it's ok, but all the time?? I don't want it to be all the time.
Yes, you sound fairly similar to me.
I'm 27 male and single. Never married, no children.
A few of my friends have married but we've not kept in touch, and it seems mostly them forgetting me.
I've been "technically" single for 12 years, so obviously I can't relate to marriage either.
I haven't dated a lot, but I have been hit-on a fair bit.
I make small talk, sometimes dance and be pleastant, sometimes show an interest
and they nearly all lose attention fairly quick.
(do they assume I'm a loser without ever hearing about what I do or what I'm like?)
I'm slim, a bit muscular, average height, nearly full head of hair and a face similar to Elijah Wood,
yet usually my looks alone aren't enough to attract girls my age, like they did before I was 13.
(maybe because guys weren't paying attention to them at that age?)
I might be a little lacking in the responsibility department, but I'm working on that. I have a decent job with great pay that keeps me very busy most days.
If you've not heard before, I'm a Canadian who hates cold and is looking to leave Canada. It seems it'll take a great deal of cash to be able to resettle in a different country, so I keep myself busy at work, working toward being able to hopefully move somewhere warm and sunny.
Besides occaisionally going places with a few of my friends, I often go places alone too.
well sorta kinda....try being a 43 year old divorcee with no children. just about everyone i know is either busy with their husbands or divorced and busy with their children. that leaves me alone with my dogs most of the time. i have always been the "black sheep" everywhere, since i chose to never have kids
well sorta kinda....try being a 43 year old divorcee with no children. just about everyone i know is either busy with their husbands or divorced and busy with their children. that leaves me alone with my dogs most of the time. i have always been the "black sheep" everywhere, since i chose to never have kids
I don't think you're a black sheep for not having kids. Although I'm in my late 30's and me and my SO don't have kids either I do know what you mean how other people tend to judge you for not having children. It seems like they either pity you or think your selfish. Don't feel bad 43 is the new 33. LOL
I have no need to be loved except by family and friends,women I only want to have affection showed to me.One day someone may change that but.........she would have to have a few qualifications for me to do that.
I go out to a bar alone and I prefere it that way.You can leave when you want,if you meet someone there is nobody you need to worry about that came with you.
When I go to a bar (which is only sometimes) I go to watch bands or play pool and let girls come to me,I don't chase them.
Today after a night of partying on the way home I stopped by Clearwater beach and parked,lit a cig and just reflected on things,it was good.I am always lost in thoughts,forums give me the outlit to get into heavy topics that wouldn't be social material otherwise.My friends talk about sports,American Idol and typical BS that I don't care about,unless they are a musician also.
In other words Im a free spirited guy who is totally stress free and happy.Occassionally I think it would be nice to be married,the thought usually lasts for about 1 minute.
I am use to taking care of myself.Besides alot of times its nice to spread out in the bed without being squished.Then again cuddling is cool at times.....meh.
my life long friend and I had a discusion the other day.We talked about all the crazy things we did as teens and stuff but the conversation turned to his ex.
He married at 23,was married for 16 years and she left him last year for a friend of his.Now he is up to his ears in debt from the divorce and heart broken.
He said they use to do everything together,ride the motorcycles,do the lawn work,work around the house,go out,even if she went to the store he went also.
I can't fathom that,I wouldn't want to do everything together,it would get on my nerves and probably burn me out on her.But I guess some people want that.
I'm totally free,if I wanted to go anywhere all I have to do is go.I could go to the other side of the world tommorrow and there is nothing holding me back,except some of my stuff and funds
If I had a couple million Id be a rolling stone around the world for a couple years,Id love to do that,just go from place to place,eat sleep and whatever at my own leisure and just experience the world.
I am too...except that I'm a few years older than you.
The funny thing is that I think people think someone like me (in their early 30s) is desperate to meet someone and have kids. The truth is, I'm 95% sure I DON'T want to have kids. Probably the only reason I would have them is if I met someone I was crazy about and he wouldn't marry me if I wouldn't have kids. Men, please do not assume that all women in their 30s are eager to get married and have kids!!
It's hard to feel like the "odd one out." But I have to say that I think a lot of my married friends are envious of the freedom and excitement of getting to date a lot and do what you want. Some of my friends have shared with me that they feel that they are missing out or wonder if they should have settled down so early.
The hardest part for me is not being single per se but just the fact that if I want to have "going out" friends they will invariably be much younger than me. Since I was the youngest in my family it feels really odd to me to feel that I'm the "voice of wisdom" in my group...very odd indeed. Also, when I go out I ALWAYS get hit on by younger guys. This is flattering because they usually think I'm in my early 20s but at the same time I would LOVE to meet someone my age or a few years older. However, men that age are usually married with children
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