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What do you do when, you're friends with a guy whose outside your race (Asian) through a blog site (like Livejournal), and you used to IM each other and then you reveal your color, to answer his question of your last name. Then, whenever the icon says that he just logged in, you say "hi" and he doesn't say anything back to you? I don't mind him being busy, he dosen't e-mail me, I've never consistanly bug him! He haven't posted any new entries yet. Do you think it's something else and not my color?
Even though you didn't specify, I'm guessing your a "Westerner." Asian people take dating more formally, gender roles are more clearly defined, and parental respect is expected. It's possible that the parents disapproved, in which case he would respect their wishes, regardless of the reason. Asians commonly stick with Asian dating sites, whereas Americans don't normally care about nationality or race in dating. I'd move on, if I were you. If you date someone of a foreign culture again, you may choose to study what is expected. All cultures have their own characteristics and idiosyncrasies.
Whatever it is, it appears he is no longer interested. Look at it this way, you're finding out a little about his character up front that, if revealed later when you have more invested in the 'relationship', could be painful discover and very difficult to reconcile.
I say try a few more times to contact him. He could genuinely be busy , but if he doesn't respond soon and with the regularity he used to...move on.
You'll have to get used to that, unfortunately. There are a lot of bigoted people...and instead of owning up to what they feel (or don't feel), they blow you off and ignore you. Even if you had great conversation before they even know what race you were.
For what ever reason, he is no longer interested in talking to you, move on and don't waste any more time. If he wants to contact you, he knows where to find you. Nothing you can do or say is going to change the way he feels... Get over it....
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