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And I don't know what to do...for the last 4 years my husband is trying to prove that I am mentally ill because he doesn't like when I tell him what is bothering me, his attitud and controling personality is destroying the relationsip. Hit me many times, telling me that is the only way that i will leave him alone and stop complaining about the things that he doesnt do or fix stuff around the house. He kick me out of his parents house because his brother, that he hates so much, complain because I was talking and he couldn't sleep. Brought mental services, a prist the police and a marriage counseler, he wanted to prove that I was mentally ill when they told him that I wasn't even deprest he told me that all that people don't know anything. I am so tired of standing his I ruled here attituded that I told him that I want the divorce, he said that is wrong and will not do that because is too expensive. I have no family here just my kids, I am tired of being the maid that takes care of the house and cooks. He doesn't have any respect for me. I don't know what to do, I want to leave him, I don't know what to do.
Honey, run. Run now, fast & far. Being a jerk is one thing, hitting you is something else entirely. Don't wait around until he kills you, or starts hitting the kids. There are tons of places that offer help for battered women. Google battered women shelter and the name of your city & state to find the help you so desperately need.
The situation you have described sounds dangerous -- domestic violence is intolerable and NO children should ever be around such behavior. You and your children should get away from this man immediately.
Sweety, divorce isn't like launching nukes.... You don't have to both turn your keys to do it.... If YOU want a divorce then who cares if he does or not???
It's not question of whether or not your husband understands you, it's a question of whether or not he's abusing you and judging by your post, there is no question.
Hmmmmm First go back to school, trying to read your post reminded me of another poster who USES THE EXACT KIND of broken text you do and a quick look at their post told me it's you with another screenname. If you're going to try to pull off this duping of the board, and bringing up these heart wrenching topics to get sympathy, simply changing your name doesn't cut it. It's like a big elephant putting on a bikini as a disquise, it's still obviously the elephant. Assuming anything you posted is true, It's my opinion your mental health is an issue that you should explore. Have a great day!
1 - This has nothing to do with his understanding you or not. If what you are portraying in your OP is what is going on, you are being seriously physically, emotionally and psychologically abused. You need to get out of that situation now. No man has the right to hit you. From what you have written, he is an abuser and needs to get himself some therapy immediately. However, what you need is to get yourself to some place safe like yesterday.
2 - Based on what you have described... don't worry about what he wants or does not want. You need to worry yourself with what you have to do in order to keep you and your kids safe. Period. The rest of the stuff... well you can worry about that later. Right now, priority no. 1 is ensuring your safety and that of your children.
3 - You state you have no family there. Okay, but I am assuming you have family elsewhere then. Can they help you out here? Can you call them and explain what is going on? Perhaps someone can come and help get you out of this situation. Perhaps they can assist through financial means to do so. Something, anything. Does your family even know what is taking place?
4 - Have you ever contacted the police on this? Is there any documentation as to his violence upon you?
5 - You need to immediately do some research on local shelter's or women resource centers in your area that can assist you. If you go to church, speak to your pastor/priest and ask them for assistance. Assistance for you is out there, but you have to reach out to them. They are not going to know you need help unless you tell them. You have to tell somone and you have to ask for that help. Coming here is a good first step to gain some insight and advice, but you now, right now, need to take the next step.
Also... you say you have no family there... do you have any good friends that can maybe help you out, give you a place to stay for a while?
go to the phone book and find numbers and call them for women's services, women's shelters, services for abused women. Call them, they know what to do and have tons of information. Best wishes.
Hmmmmm First go back to school, trying to read your post reminded me of another poster who USES THE EXACT KIND of broken text you do and a quick look at their post told me it's you with another screenname. If you're going to try to pull off this duping of the board, and bringing up these heart wrenching topics to get sympathy, simply changing your name doesn't cut it. It's like a big elephant putting on a bikini as a disquise, it's still obviously the elephant. Assuming anything you posted is true, It's my opinion your mental health is an issue that you should explore. Have a great day!
You know what - aren't you the same genius who accused me of being a liar in one of my posts? Obviously you're a regular Nancy Drew. Who knows, maybe you are correct in this case I have no idea. I am however finding this little habit of making random accusations based on your ASSumptions, somewhat tiresom. Get over yourself and either answer a post or not, but this BS witch hunting you find so entertaining needs to stop.
Thanks.
Thank you for the advice. I know that the best thing that I can do is leave him and look for help in one of those places that offer help for battered woman. But somehow I am hoping that he will understand that we don't live in the cave era and is not me the one who always have to give up...believe it or not, my husband is very smart person with a huge heart what is being hard for him is to realize that sometimes he can not be the superman and try to cover everything and try to include me in the marriage. I am Catholic and the divorce isn't the best option for me that is why I said I don't know what to do!
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