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Nuts? No. I just think you are obsessive-compulsive, paranoid, bored, too much time on your hands, insecure, foolish for forgiving him for cheating on you (expecting a different result in the long run) which constitutes as insane.
we live in a different state than his kids and exwife (the kids live with her) the ex GF is contacting the kids, and they have only met once when the kids came down for a visit. he introduced her to them as a "coworker". they have no idea that he was sleeping with her DURING THE TIME HE WAS SLEEPING WITH ME. well, actually now i don't know what they think or what they know. i have no idea what she's putting in their heads.
we've never lived together but now looking back that's a good thing.
so help me out. half of you think i'm nuts to still be with him, and about 50/50 think i'm nuts to be obsessed. the rest think i have something to worry about.
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Originally Posted by Twinkle Toes
I'm confused - was he cheating on you with HER for a few months? If so, how can that be when they have only met once, as you state in your post?
Yeah, I think you're nuts.
Yeah. And how does the OP know he's not still in contact with her? This is my whole problem with forgiving cheating and why I'd never do it. Once the trust is broken, there's nothing left as far as I'm concerned. You take him back with the trust gone, you wind up doing The Crazy, like stalking the ex online like the OP.
Also, I find it odd that the ex keeps in contact with the kids... what's that about? Either she is still in the picture, or wants to be.
we live in a different state than his kids and exwife (the kids live with her) the ex GF is contacting the kids, and they have only met once when the kids came down for a visit. he introduced her to them as a "coworker". they have no idea that he was sleeping with her DURING THE TIME HE WAS SLEEPING WITH ME. well, actually now i don't know what they think or what they know. i have no idea what she's putting in their heads.
we've never lived together but now looking back that's a good thing.
so help me out. half of you think i'm nuts to still be with him, and about 50/50 think i'm nuts to be obsessed. the rest think i have something to worry about.
Okay, glad you clarified that. I was only kidding when I said you were nuts. You're not. But I think you should dump this guy and find someone who is interested in YOU, and only you. There are a lot of good, decent men out there - go find one!!! Best of luck to you.
If you have explained to him that this upsets you, and he agrees that it is not right, yet, he is not doing anything about it, then thats lack of respect for you....not to even mention the cheating on you part.
He cheated on you with this girl! Hellooooo?? (If I read this right?)
No, his kids shouldn`t have contact with her, as long as you are still with him. Maybe you need to chat with the kids yourself. Put a little bug in their ear, that their Dad cheated on you with this girl.
I would talk to your BF again, and tell him she needs to go away!
OP, consider yourself lucky then. Now you know he's a jerk and you don't have to ask anyone on here for advice. It's plain as day. I'm sure you will find someone who is better for you! Good luck!
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Best of luck to you.
