When you want attention from your So... (wife, men, love)

[yankeegirl313]

So many people wonder why is he not paying attention to me, even if I do this, or that. I say this, or that, and I get no response.
Some often wonder, well, the spark is gone, or he`s bored with me.
They say,"what is wrong with our relationship?"
I hear this alot on this forum, or just out with friends.
I thought it would be fun to start a topic on as to why guys start to feel this way?
Is it because they get comfortable with this girl, or maybe because they get fulfilled, and then their interest goes off to football, or whatever may be the case?
Why do men lose the loving/attention feeling they have once for their girl?
Or.....do they really lose it, or just become comfortable in the relationship?

[Driller1]

They are hunters by nature. It is the thrill of the chase.

[beckycat]

I think sometimes they get bored with the relationship. One thing that helps us is time apart. I mean if my DH goes out of town to visit family and we're apart a week, that sparks things. A relationship is something you have to work at. Have you talked to him about it? It's something that happens to alot of relationships including mine.

[SanAntoQT]

Originally Posted by beckycat

I think sometimes they get bored with the relationship. One thing that helps us is time apart. I mean if my DH goes out of town to visit family and we're apart a week, that sparks things. A relationship is something you have to work at. Have you talked to him about it? It's something that happens to alot of relationships including mine.

I don't think it's so much boredom, but getting comfortable. I think my SO forgets what it was like not to have me around. Whenever we're apart for a few days, he does become more attentive. I notice this moreso when I leave and he has to stay home alone. When I start feeling "ignored," for lack of a better word, I take a time out and spend more time away from him than usual. That usually makes him take notice.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by SanAntoQT

I don't think it's so much boredom, but getting comfortable. I think SO forgets what it was like not to have me around. Whenever we're apart for a few days, he does become more attentive. I notice this moreso when I leave and he has to stay home alone. When I start feeling "ignored," for lack of a better word, I take a time out and spend more time away from him than usual. That usually makes him take notice.

That's Dolly Parton's recipe for a happy and long marriage.

[SanAntoQT]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

That's Dolly Parton's recipe for a happy and long marriage.

Yep, that and the occasional side dish! *lol*

[yankeegirl313]

[quote=beckycat;5256021 Have you talked to him about it? It's something that happens to alot of relationships including mine. [/quote]

Thanks, but this is not necessarily a scene with me...as of yet anyway.
I know it happens to alot of relationships, and hear about this alot.

The gal tries to spice things up, by candle lite dinners, role play, lingerie, or to stand in front of his football, or video game. lol....

[o boy]

Originally Posted by yankeegirl313

So many people wonder why is he not paying attention to me, even if I do this, or that. I say this, or that, and I get no response.
Some often wonder, well, the spark is gone, or he`s bored with me.
They say,"what is wrong with our relationship?"
I hear this alot on this forum, or just out with friends.
I thought it would be fun to start a topic on as to why guys start to feel this way?
Is it because they get comfortable with this girl, or maybe because they get fulfilled, and then their interest goes off to football, or whatever may be the case?
Why do men lose the loving/attention feeling they have once for their girl?
Or.....do they really lose it, or just become comfortable in the relationship?

Well most likely you missed him trying to tell you but, that may not matter any more because guys sometime forget the reasons why they get the way they do. But, there easy to turn around.
First if you want his attention get naked walk around and then sit on his lap. This will get his attention. If you don't know what to do from there I know what the problem is.
Stop nagging.
Start cooking, cleaning, dressing nice, look nice, classy, hot, and talk nice all the time.
Buy you and him some nice new closes on clearance.
Buy him some things, little things that let him no you care.
Be a little mysterious.
Treat him like a puppy, always be happy to see him and greet him with a kiss, bring him a beer when he gets home at the end of the day and leave him alone for at leased 15-20 mins.
Flirt, flirt, flirt.
Give him a back rub a good one with a happy ending.
I think he will come around (no pun and he will miss you when your gone.
Don't foget to pray,pray,pray for him.
Go with God

[professorsenator]

Originally Posted by yankeegirl313

The gal tries to spice things up, by candle lite dinners, role play, lingerie, or to stand in front of his football, or video game. lol....

I don't know because the tables are turned in my relationship: I'm more interested in my wife than she is in me -- I'd love for her to try to spice things up. For a variety of complex reasons I won't leave, but it certainly is extremely frustrating when one partner is more interested than the other. Things didn't start out this way (though in hindsight some clues were there), but here we are 12 years later...

[yankeegirl313]

Originally Posted by professorsenator

I don't know because the tables are turned in my relationship: I'm more interested in my wife than she is in me -- I'd love for her to try to spice things up. For a variety of complex reasons I won't leave, but it certainly is extremely frustrating when one partner is more interested than the other. Things didn't start out this way (though in hindsight some clues were there), but here we are 12 years later...

Reverse it back to you then. You go out and buy some candles, have a nice dinner prepared for her, you can even play "the chief."
Our imaginations can go anywhere we want them to go, so think up a theme, and play it out. Spice it up! Do something that she is not expecting. Get ya` a pair of those sexy underwear with the two little ears on top. lol...