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Grrr. I have this friend who is over the age of 50 and her whole world revolves around one guy or another. I feel used and I'm trying to decide whether to just tell her how I feel or walk away.
The worst thing is I JUST got out of a meeting where I had to sit and tell a 17 year old girl to not make her BF the entire world, while her therapist sat in the meeting putting the same thing across, while her mother was almost in tears begging to be important.
I come home to an email telling me her ex husband wants to get married again and blah, blah, blah. Of course, she completely glossed over the last email I sent to her saying she'd comment later, but never did. Now she wants to know what her therapist would have to say about this.
I am ready to tell her to just go get remarried and that I am done listening to her boy stories, but I may be better served by just disappearing.
Anyway, I feel like a good-enough-to-send-emails-to-you-telling-you-about-my-life (thank you very much as we are coming up on the holidays and I am single) but not good enough to ever talk to on the phone or spend time with.
What would you do? Egads, why am I in this situation? Bad Karma? I mean, I can see it with a 17 year old, but someone who is 53?
A lot of people that work in mental health are creepy, dude. It's like they have no soul or something LOL...oh well, you should know what to do since you're so smart
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LOL, I've never met her man but seen pics and he ain't my type. Plus, I am not that kind of girl.
Honestly, I work in mental health and to come home to this kind of "stuff." Aye, aye, aye.
A lot of people that work in mental health are creepy, dude. It's like they have no soul or something LOL...oh well, you should know what to do since you're so smart
Well, your first mistake is in calling me "dude." Secondly, I ought to know a lot of people are creepy in mental health as my last BF works in our sister company and is a verbal abuser. I think I get this.
But I am not creepy, naive, perhaps, but not creepy. I made the "mistake?" of leaving a banking career to "make a difference." Jury is still out on this. But this thread isn't about that. One never knows. I still might make a "difference" to one kid who may go on to achieve something great, so I guess in some weird way I "might" have a positive impact on the world. That was my intent, at least.
Get rid of your friend by telling her she is a negative drag and you are sick of her and never want to hear from her again.
That should do the trick. Good luck
Get rid of your friend by telling her she is a negative drag and you are sick of her and never want to hear from her again.
That should do the trick. Good luck
LOL, that would sure do it! However, I am slightly opposed to putting that kind of negative energy out there. My two choices are to just be honest and disclose, or disappear, gradually, you know how it goes. People get busy and lose touch.
This sorta stuff isn't good for my mental health. And y'all know how creepy and soul-less we are in behavioral health
Be direct and honest through email, IM, or text. Do not fade out because that is the weak cowards way out of the difficult situations.
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Originally Posted by movin'on
LOL, that would sure do it! However, I am slightly opposed to putting that kind of negative energy out there. My two choices are to just be honest and disclose, or disappear, gradually, you know how it goes. People get busy and lose touch.
This sorta stuff isn't good for my mental health. And y'all know how creepy and soul-less we are in behavioral health
Your friend sounds like she is not such a great friend. She sounds pretty self-centered to me. And a 50-year-old or older woman who hasn't learned by now doesn't want to learn.
Save yourself!
Don't be so available. Find other friends, with more balanced personalities. Get involved in something new.
Good luck!
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