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If someone cheats on you, he/she is not worth the relationship. Unless you want to live your life doubting every move they make and every thing they do, I don't think staying is worth it. But, that's me, that's my family, not everyone feels that way.
I've been there. I told him where to stick his thingy (up his back side) and I haven't had a thing to do with him since, nor will I ever. If trust doesn't exist, nothing does.
I've learned the hard way. As much as you want to forget, it's next to impossible. If you can move past this with him and stay together, good luck. I tried and failed.
But then I realized it's not my fault that I have to try to get over this. "This" shouldn't have been here in the first place. He and she can have each other, she can have him, he can have her, he can have anyone he wants now. I simply don't care. He can take himself and all of the relationships she formed because "This is my girlfriend" and shove them straight up his @ss.
I've learned the hard way. As much as you want to forget, it's next to impossible. If you can move past this with him and stay together, good luck. I tried and failed.
But then I realized it's not my fault that I have to try to get over this. "This" shouldn't have been here in the first place. He and she can have each other, she can have him, he can have her, he can have anyone he wants now. I simply don't care. He can take himself and all of the relationships she formed because "This is my girlfriend" and shove them straight up his @ss.
im sorry you went through this also. Thanks for the good luck.
Have you read some books on the subject? Has your husband continued to try to improve and enhance your relationship without it being creepy and awkward?
Wow, I'm really sorry to hear that he did that to you. 20 years is a long time and then bam! I have never cheated on anybody because either I'm with you, or I'm not. I want to get married to someone nice but hearing these kinds of things make me want to shy away from it and just date the person for the rest of my life instead of marrying them..ha
Obviously he has lost your trust and its his own damn fault. He made this mess and theres no taking it back. Have you given him a huge slap across the face yet? He should get one, or eight..ha
I can not imagine how you feel to be betrayed like that. This is obviously very tough but you really only have two choices: Accept it and stay with him or decide to leave. Neither are easy or fun options, though. You have my best and I hope you can overcome it!
Sometimes you will find the counseling will just help you. But as a couple they can suggest ways to start rebuilding trust. If you want to give it some effort then really work at it. It takes time to rebuild that trust and he is going to have to realize that. Forgive and forget really doesn't work....you have to walk this out if you are going to make it. If you still love him than it might be worth the effort to at least see if you have a chance.
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