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sierraAZ, you know nothing about me. I think something about this thread and my ability to set boundaries must have touched a button off in you somewhere. I am actually very good with children. It's rude "adults" who should know better that I have issues with. Enough said.
sierraAZ, you know nothing about me. I think something about this thread and my ability to set boundaries must have touched a button off in you somewhere. I am actually very good with children. It's rude "adults" who should know better that I have issues with. Enough said.
As "you" said? sierraAZ, what's up with you tonight? I am the one who suggested closing the thread, and I am not ready to do that yet. By now, at the very least, you should have gotten that I make my own decisions.
As "you" said? sierraAZ, what's up with you tonight? I am the one who suggested closing the thread, and I am not ready to do that yet. By now, at the very least, you should have gotten that I make my own decisions.
I just agreed with you. Or is even this not good enough?!
Thanks nuala and Huck... All very interesting food for thought. All the more reason to explore all my options and make sure that I am not on my own but in the midst of a strong community of supportive friends, neighbors, and families. It seems that so many people have soured on the idea of marriage, family, and children. I will be selective and stick with the right people, and hopefully choose a loving mate who knows how to hang in there. As suggested before (and thought of before) I would also consider marrying someone who already has children. I'm not stuck on the idea of having to be the biological parent. There are many kinds of families. I am not racing against time. I just feel it in my gut that this is what is in store for me on this next leg of my journey. I have faith and will let it all unfold as it will, while also doing what must be done.
Indi, I said what I did not only for you to read, but for anyone else who might come across this thread, so please don't take my remarks as if they were meant as an attack directly at you personally. Thank you.
Honestly, and I am just giving you my opinion here, which is what you asked for, I don't think in my late 40's I would be looking into the "traditional" family situation.
As for love and family life, go for it!
I myself would not want to give birth in my late 40's. something about being 65 and attending my child's high school graduation and then 69 (or 70) when they graduate college is just too old for me.
If I hadn't fulfilled my desires for children by that age, I would seriously consider other options, like becoming a foster mother to an older child, with the possibility of adopting. This way not only would I be helping a child, but I could also put in for an older one, like 10 years or something. That would help with the age situation.
That is what I might pursue before trying to have a baby at that age.
Indi 9, Fly girl, Fly! Don't look down and don't look back!
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