Why does this guy do this??? He always says stuff like this... (girls, love)
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This guy and I have been crushing on eachother for awhile. I have known this guy alittle more then a year. We didn't at the start of our friendship see much of each other at all, but we see each other more now. He always introduces me to anyone that he is with, I could see him out somewhere, and be with a group of girls and he will just introduce me, and no one else. He has a photo of us that he went out and bought a frame for. Really he is just that type of guy that acts tough, but really is a softy. I guess, I have just gotten that side of him out,because a lot of people are like intimidated by him and I am like why? He is a nice guy? He told me, every time I look at the photo of you and I, it just makes me happy, I find my self always smiling when I look at it. He is always listening in on my conversations, and sometimes I'll ask him to study alittle after classes or whatever, and I would ask.." hey you got acouple of min. to work on some stuff?" or something like that and he would always respond.." I told you, I always have time for you" or something like that.
BUT...what bothers me about him and this started recently..he started like almost..putting himself down when we are together. I mean, is he fishing for me to compliment him or something? He is ethier putting himself down in front of me, or..we were working on some science problems and you had to calculate them and stuff and when he would get the answer..he would be like.."ohh man, I am the man! Its fine, you can tell me I am Amazing!" So, I mean...I went along with it..I said.." Yes, Yes, I will admit, you are Amazing..lol"
But, really..do all guys do this..like feel they have to put themselves down all the time infront of someone ( atleast I think he likes me), they like or are crushing on???
He sounds arrogant and childish. Seriously, that is a bad sign. Immaturity, low self esteem, and high IQ is not a good combination.
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Originally Posted by ali33
This guy and I have been crushing on eachother for awhile. I have known this guy alittle more then a year. We didn't at the start of our friendship see much of each other at all, but we see each other more now. He always introduces me to anyone that he is with, I could see him out somewhere, and be with a group of girls and he will just introduce me, and no one else. He has a photo of us that he went out and bought a frame for. Really he is just that type of guy that acts tough, but really is a softy. I guess, I have just gotten that side of him out,because a lot of people are like intimidated by him and I am like why? He is a nice guy? He told me, every time I look at the photo of you and I, it just makes me happy, I find my self always smiling when I look at it. He is always listening in on my conversations, and sometimes I'll ask him to study alittle after classes or whatever, and I would ask.." hey you got acouple of min. to work on some stuff?" or something like that and he would always respond.." I told you, I always have time for you" or something like that.
BUT...what bothers me about him and this started recently..he started like almost..putting himself down when we are together. I mean, is he fishing for me to compliment him or something? He is ethier putting himself down in front of me, or..we were working on some science problems and you had to calculate them and stuff and when he would get the answer..he would be like.."ohh man, I am the man! Its fine, you can tell me I am Amazing!" So, I mean...I went along with it..I said.." Yes, Yes, I will admit, you are Amazing..lol"
But, really..do all guys do this..like feel they have to put themselves down all the time infront of someone ( atleast I think he likes me), they like or are crushing on???
Well, for the most part...I dont find that he says positive things. Sometimes I think he is just using the whole reverse psychology thing, He would say..." I know you hate me but.."...and obviously NOT true...we are good friends, so he has to know that, that is not true..so I would just tell him.." Whatever, you know thats crazy, and not true." But it seems like he just wants to see if I will come out and say...ohhh you know I love ya..dont say something like that.
Or..or he would just say little things about himself that are not good, and it seems like he just wants to see if I am going to sit there and say " Ohh...sweetie...thats not true..dont say that about yourself...but to be honest...I am just not that kind of person. I am not at all saying I am not a person that gives praise when its needed..If I think you deserve a compliment or praise..I will go all out, and do everything under the sun to celebrate something good or whatever, but I just recently started to see that, this guy...he seems to be like looking for compliments all the time...=/
Is he just insecure?? He does not seem that way on the outside...but maybe that is how he really feels or something??
Awwwww, the poor guy wants to be flattered and is feeling a little low on self-esteem and insecure. He sounds like a giganta-baby.
How was/is this guys relationship with his parent's? Was there any emotional abuse in his home growing up where his parent's may have contributed to where he feels that he needs to find his bearings?
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