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Survey question (this is inspired by someone posting a Facebook question):
When an ExBoyfriend/ ExGirlfriend "friend requests" you on your Facebook/ Myspace/ etc., do you:
1. Accept, or
2. DO NOT accept (and why?), or
3. Depends on how sane or insane this ex is?
Just pointing out that this post's question is different than the poll. Are you talking about your ex, or your current SO's ex (in which case, why on earth would that person be sending you a friend request?)
The reason for this question is because I noticed the rise of fame of Facebook, and the fact that Facebook is actually owned by the same company as Classmates.com. Hence, Facebook is much easier to find people from your HS, ex(es) included.
Lately, I have noticed the rise of this "issue" around people who just signed up for Facebook -- the dilemma of whether or not, IF your spouse's/ significant other's exboyfriend/ exgirlfriend (not yours, but your other half's exes) "friend requests" you on Facebook, you would:
accept, not accept, or the answer depends on who it is?
That being said, I just really don't want any connection with my wife's exes. It's not a jealousy thing on my part. My wife broke off her engagement with a guy right before she met me. A few years later, still single, he came to town and invited her out to lunch. My wife invited me to come along, which I declined. The last thing I wanted to do is have this guy critiquing me across the restaurant table, wondering how I snagged the love of his life.
So why would you want to deal with this stuff online? No matter how innocent you might be, anything you say could be twisted around and used against you. No thanks to that.
I don't do Facebook or MySpace. However if I were in this situation, I would choose option 4, I would consult with my "better half" first before accepting or declining the invite from his ex. And it matters not their sanity level. If my boyriend were at all uncomfortable with my being in contact with his ex, then it's a no-go.
My basic gut feeling would be to decline the invite, but I would still check first with my boyfriend. Who knows, maybe declining the invite might be seen as a hostile move by some. Anyway, I think that I will stick with avoiding Facebook and MySpace for now.
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