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My husband and I have been friends with another couple for a few years. They don't have that many friends, we on the other hand do. This other couple is lovely, but they are too boring for us to continue going out with them. Is there a nice way of breaking up with them?
An easy way is for you to have a "toy" party and invite them. If they go for that, invite them to your wife swap next week. If they are up for that, then you've just discovered they're not that boring!
This has happened to us before and we did it gradually as they were nice people ( but very, very dull and we had to do all the "work") .
Basically we saw them less and less, until it sort of fizzled out naturally. We avoided their phone calls, always tried to be "busy" if they mentioned meeting up and I think they took the hint eventually.
With another couple who was basically treating us lwe were them solely to entertain them , we just came out with it and told them we thought it was not working out.
If you like them you do have to balance hurting their feelings with being honest and that can be really hard.
Another way would be for them to gradually become "Christmas card " acquaintances where you do still have contact but very little.
It is not easy especially with people who sole crime is being nice but really boring. Honesty to me can be the best solution but it still requires a great deal of tact.
The other way maybe would be to write them a nice but open letter explaining your feelings ( do not use the words "you are boring " though !) and trying to see if maybe they can pick up the pace a bit.
Last resort, sell the house, and move home in the middle of the night !
Why do you have to "breakup" with them? Since you say that they are nice people and your post considers them friends, just see them less frequently. You probably will reach a time in your life when boring is okay. It is hard to find true friends, so if these people have been good to you, you need to find a way to keep them in your life. They may be the ones to be there when there is a true crisis, because that's when you know who your friends are.
Why do you have to "breakup" with them? Since you say that they are nice people and your post considers them friends, just see them less frequently. You probably will reach a time in your life when boring is okay. It is hard to find true friends, so if these people have been good to you, you need to find a way to keep them in your life. They may be the ones to be there when there is a true crisis, because that's when you know who your friends are.
I couldn't agree more. True friends are hard to find.
why do you have to "breakup" with them? Since you say that they are nice people and your post considers them friends, just see them less frequently. You probably will reach a time in your life when boring is okay. It is hard to find true friends, so if these people have been good to you, you need to find a way to keep them in your life. They may be the ones to be there when there is a true crisis, because that's when you know who your friends are.
I would not break up with them...everyone brings something to life's proverbial table and they have been your friends for a while now. Try to integrate them into your large circle of friends and see how it goes.
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