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I was just wondering what females think about guys asking you out at the last minute. I have experienced this and I find it a little annoying. I remember one time I started dating this guy, who did this to me all the time. One time he called me at 7:00 on a Friday night to ask me if I wanted to go to a 7:30 movie. I said, "no". For 1 thing I wouldn't have made it on time with just 30 mins to prepare and drive there. Furthermore,I think it is inconsiderate. It makes it seem like the person is an after thought like you couldn't find anyone better to hang out with. I am all for spontaneity but when you first meet someone and you are trying to get to know them I think you should give them a little notice. For example,If I wanted to hang out with a guy over the weekend I might mention it on Wednesday or Thursday to see if they are available. It's just common courtesy....I think. I was just wondering what other people think. I would appreciate guys point of view as well.
I was just wondering what females think about guys asking you out at the last minute. I have experienced this and I find it a little annoying. I remember one time I started dating this guy, who did this to me all the time. One time he called me at 7:00 on a Friday night to ask me if I wanted to go to a 7:30 movie. I said, "no". For 1 thing I wouldn't have made it on time with just 30 mins to prepare and drive there. Furthermore,I think it is inconsiderate. It makes it seem like the person is an after thought like you couldn't find anyone better to hang out with. I am all for spontaneity but when you first meet someone and you are trying to get to know them I think you should give them a little notice. For example,If I wanted to hang out with a guy over the weekend I might mention it on Wednesday or Thursday to see if they are available. It's just common courtesy....I think. I was just wondering what other people think. I would appreciate guys point of view as well.
I agree, but I also think you should have told him what you wrote here. Makes ya kinda feel like he called everyone else he knew first. And I'm probably wrong, but, the fact remains, it is very non-thinking.
For where I live, it's can be common for that to happen. Usually it's a group thing that gets decided at the last minute and guys call their girlfriends. It works here because most can get to the theater in 5 minutes.
Maybe he was running through his little black book and you were way down on the list. Not saying that to be mean, but he may have exhausted other options before finally calling on you.
I would say No to last minute requests. If I'm important enough to ask out on a date then I'm important enough to call a day or two ahead of time. I think last minute requests are inconsiderate.
When I was single I would get that last minute stuff sometimes. and, sometimes I would say yes to their offer. I mean, if it's like a dinner date or something nice then yes, you obviously want a little heads up for that situation but if someone says you know something like, hey lets go grab a beer, I'm not very inclined to get dressed up or "ready" for that date. So, I would say it depended on the situation. Preferably a little advanced notice is appreciated.
Last minute requests don't show a lot of respect or regard for the person's time, schedule, life, or other plans
Yes there are spontaneous last minute plans that can be fun
but if the pattern is ALWAYS to be the last minute date, it says to me the person is calling me only because nothing better panned out
i had a friend (not a dating relationship, just a friend) who was very up front about this. She would line up three or 4 different plans with different people and then decide at the last minute who she "really" wanted to be with, and then cancel the others last minute. TO me that is really disrespectful. SHe didn't see it that way. SHe said she wouldn't know who she felt like spending time with until that time came. To me it is an utterly self-absorbed and egocentric outlook.
Probably the best date I was ever on was a last minute deal. Both us were finishing work and we'd had a prosperous day so I asked and we both went home and got ready and away we went. No big deal.
I can understand if a woman gets asked out at the last second all the time, but I think you have to balance it with a bit of spontaneity. I have known girls in the past that always require "booking" well in advance, so they fall off my list quickly. Just not interested in someone that fixed in everything they do.
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