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I agree with you; however, "distraction" is a way of life here. Everybody has to always "do" something, preferably a few things at a time! Otherwise they may have to think, God forbid!
I agree with you; however, "distraction" is a way of life here. Everybody has to always "do" something, preferably a few things at a time! Otherwise they may have to think, God forbid!
"Here" where? Where ever you are, you can still do navel gazing. At each others navels if you want. Nah actually I meant metaphorically. In some towns, the only thing to "do" is to have BEERS. Hey, want some BEERS? All right, let's have some BEERS! Hey I know, let's go pick up some BEERS! Let's go on out there yonder and have us some BEERS! Hey how about we drive down to the lake and have some BEERS? Let's get the fishin tackle together and get us some fish at the old hole, bring the BEERS! .....repeat indefinitely... Though that's still more a statement of the people than of the town. If you're hanging out with people who always have to "do" something, then, well, you're hanging out with the wrong people.. Though I must admit finding the right people is sometimes tough in a sea of wrongers.
"Here" where? Where ever you are, you can still do navel gazing. At each others navels if you want. Nah actually I meant metaphorically. In some towns, the only thing to "do" is to have BEERS. Hey, want some BEERS? All right, let's have some BEERS! Hey I know, let's go pick up some BEERS! Let's go on out there yonder and have us some BEERS! Hey how about we drive down to the lake and have some BEERS? Let's get the fishin tackle together and get us some fish at the old hole, bring the BEERS! .....repeat indefinitely... Though that's still more a statement of the people than of the town. If you're hanging out with people who always have to "do" something, then, well, you're hanging out with the wrong people.. Though I must admit finding the right people is sometimes tough in a sea of wrongers.
yup, that's a good point...
I went as far as to ask, & people got downright huffy about it
I think you are being very considerate by not expecting him to buy things, it shows you are there for more than materialistic crap, high five. But don't settle....when you went to his place how was he there, a couch potato that pointed toward the bathroom (when you ask where it was), and lit a cigarette?
Or, was he a gentleman, offering you something to drink, making sure you were comfortable etc.?
What is his personality like? don't be with someone just to be with them....
and the car dealer thing...sounds like he already had an appointment, and he wanted to share his new car with you. thats cool.
I found a lot of men thought when you consented to come in their house, they thought you were consenting to a whole lot more. Just be aware that is how some of them think..
also a lot of women believe that when a man invites her to his home he's inviting her to a whole lot more and they often feel being pushed forward. It's a tie between both attitudes, I believe.
As I sometimes do, I agree with SierraAZ. I think that a first date (as I've said in similar posts) should be at a coffee shop, where you can chat, it's comfortable, no pressure, etc...
From there, if you have a good vibe, date #2 should be out to dinner or similar, again, if everything is going well, spend some time just talking on the phone and over the internet, now that the ice is broken and all parties are comfie, it's time get to know each other and with no pressure of being in person, it's easier to do this.
I don't like that he dragged you out to a car place to buy a car and then back to his place. Sounds like he's kind of lazy and for me that would be a red flag. He's assuming in such a short time of knowing you that you are just his hangout buddy that he no longer needs to court you and do all the normal dating things.
I'd bring it up if you are really at odds and if you don't like what he has to say, it should be an easy goodbye since you've only known each other a short time.
I can only speak for myself but I wouldn't be happy with that. He sounds kind of lazy... I don't think a man needs to spend a ton of money on me but yeah just going back to his place to sit around so soon would not be cool with me. But hey if you're the home body type then you may think it's no big deal. I rather go out an do something - even if it's cheap or free.
It seems that he may be expecting you to just go along with whatever he is doing or wants to do rather than making the effort to figure out what you might like to do. He certainly is nto making an effort to impress you. On the other hand he is showing you what ordinary life with him might be like.
Still if he invites you over to watch him mow the lawn, tell him that you have to wash your hair.
Still if he invites you over to watch him mow the lawn, tell him that you have to wash your hair.
too funny!!!
ooohhhhh and if he says he needs help doing the dishes or vacuuming, tell him you're wayyyyyyy toooooo busyyyyy
rewiring the electrical in your dog house (for him)!!!
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too funny!!!
