promising sex and then changing mind. (sociopathic, woman, older, personality)
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Is it wrong for me to promise a man that and then change my mind? I have a fwb type relationship with an older man in his early 50s (I'm 28)and we agreed we were going to do that one night. He knocked on my door and I opened it,took the food he brought me,and closed the doo. I also had sent a text saying I changed my mind. He starts getting upset and literally crying,cursing at me saying he wouldn't had brought the food if he had known that. The problem though was that I wanted the food and knew he would not have came by for that purpose.
A woman can change her mind at any time,right? Do you think I was being a nasty person? Also,am I the only woman who gets a kick out of seeing a man upset because he didn't get any after being promised it?
Your body, your choice. However, you shouldn't make promises of this sort to begin with - just let things develop naturally and if sex happens, it happens. It does sound like you took advantage of him, which isn't nice, and assuming he wouldn't come by as a friend only and bring food is also indicative of a user or player type personality.
So yes, your choice, but you handled it very badly.
You took the food and shut the door on him? That is bad enough by itself. You say you wanted the food but you knew he would not bring it unless you promised him sex, so you promised him sex, took the food and shut the door on him... Is it really that hard to see you were wrong, toying with him, and using him?
Yeah, the whole taking the food was pretty messed up. You should have at least told him that you were flattered by his interest but you changed your mind. I mean, hell, no matter what your age, any man being interested is flattering and an ego boost for us, even if we're not interested.
This man has feelings just like anyone else. You are very much so entitled to change your mind on the whole fwb thing.
That being said, had you told him no to the fwb repeatedly and he wouldn't stop, then yes, inviting him over and asking him to bring dinner, then taking it would have been a great laugh and would have put him in his place.
But because you changed your mind on something you WERE both okay with, then pretty much slapped him across the face for something you WERE both okay with, that's just flat our cruel.
You took the food and shut the door on him? That is bad enough by itself. You say you wanted the food but you knew he would not bring it unless you promised him sex, so you promised him sex, took the food and shut the door on him... Is it really that hard to see you were wrong, toying with him, and using him?
Are you saying because this woman accepted food he requires a payment? FU. Manipulation is wrong for both sexes. He also was using that tactic don't you think?
taking the food and shutting the door was being a *****.
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