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i met my girl friend through a friend she had no place to stay or anything. i pretty much have given her what she has except for some clothing items. anyway here lately we found out that i will be deploying to iraq and she has been pushing marriage pretty hard. for example she will bring up the subject and gets mad if i tell her not to bring it up (i mean she brings it up at least 2 or 3 times a day). anyway she doesnt work or anything and she wants every thing to have her name on it somewhere. for example my bank account house and car. i talked to my dad one day and she was there and him and her were talking and he asked if we were going to get married and she told him yes. then he asked her what was she going to do if i dont make it home and she said at least she would have some money. i asked her about it and she denys it to the best of her ability and doesnt give in. i mean she gets upset and cries about it. what do i do help me out thanks.
If you're fishing for someone to tell you to dump her, I volunteer! Cut her lose.
Just be honest with her and tell her "I'm not going to get engaged or married now." and no matter what her retort, stick to your guns. She'll bail and probably latch on to one of your buds. If half of what you posted is legit, it's enough red flags to call it off.
My brother was in the Air Force, and I've known a large # of people who were in the military. Many women are attracted to or directly seek out military guys b/c they can sit on their butts and spend the guy's money while they're deployed. The military has an insanely high divorce rate in the few years after people get out of the military b/c now all of a sudden the guy is home every day.
Get one last night of fun then ditch her. WAY too many red flags. Incidentally, these women are also the sort that would lie about being on the pill so you'll knock them up and be stuck paying child support (again, so they can sit on their butt spending your money) so be safe.
I think this thread belongs in the RELATIONSHIPS forum, but I'll have a go while you're still here.
YES, she is with you for the money.
Anyone who presses for such entitlement, as you have described, is wanting financial security. Since you have no desire to commit yourself to her, don't commit your assets, either. Error, delete, remove, ignore.
Now what you haven't shared with us is how long you've been together, why she isn't working and what you plan to do with her when you get your orders...
Spent 10 years in the Army and seen it happen too many times. Dude the red flags are all over, the fact you are posting here says you feel she's in it for your dough. That said if you love her and all, tell her you'll consider it in a couple of years and if she is married to Joe Snuffie than maybe its meant to be. For now dont become a statistic.
Man, I hate to tell you, but she's after a sugar daddy!
Don't you dare put her name on ANY titles or accounts. I'd expect you to come home to nothing after she sells things, empties accounts and leaves. I know that's harsh sounding, but, as a fat old man who's seen a thing or two , that's exactly what would happen given the info as you've presented it.
...and I expect that deep down, you know it, too!
Cut her loose, as of yesterday!
By the way, thank you for your service to our country!
My brother was in the Air Force, and I've known a large # of people who were in the military. Many women are attracted to or directly seek out military guys b/c they can sit on their butts and spend the guy's money while they're deployed. The military has an insanely high divorce rate in the few years after people get out of the military b/c now all of a sudden the guy is home every day.
Get one last night of fun then ditch her. WAY too many red flags. Incidentally, these women are also the sort that would lie about being on the pill so you'll knock them up and be stuck paying child support (again, so they can sit on their butt spending your money) so be safe.
I agree with this post and with cautions post. I work for a military installation (although I myself am not military) and I see it all the time. Men and women doing this and make not mistake it IS about the money.
Not to mention if you marry someone in the military they have a hefty life insurance policy, I know a girl that hurried into a marriage with a marine whom she didn't love, had his kids before he left for Iraq, was killed over there and she collected $250K - needless to say less than a year after he was killed, she was married again and guess to who? That's right another military man. Go figure.
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