More conclusions... (women, single, call, therapist)

[Rabbitluvr]

Here's another edition...

I have come to the realization that what I want simply is irrelevant. I'm focusing on relationships but this can apply to just about any other area of life. No matter what it is, no matter who I am interested in, no matter what plans I wish to carry out, no matter what my desires are, if it's something I want then there is no way it can happen. Women call all the shots when it comes to relationships. Every. Single. Time. No exceptions. I could be the most decent, kindest, gentlest, interesting, 'buff' - not that I care about that one very much, but I digress - educated, whatever guy there is and it doesn't make a damn bit of difference. None.

Here's another thing that is related - goals. I have also come to the realization that any goals I have that do NOT involve other people - such as getting into shape, losing weight, learning new things, etc. all things I have done, btw - are the only goals that can materialize. Howeever, any goals that involve others will not and cannot be realized such as getting a better job and relationships. Impossible.

And I have eleven solid years worth of proof to show for it.

[Ascension2012]

Oh, cry me a river, rabbit. Are you throwing yourself another pity party here? Its great that your goals revolve around things that only you can control, you wouldnt want it any other way. Being decent, kind, gentle or interesting wont get you very far in life, at least not in the way that you think it would. What you want is the most relevant thing there is. If its something you really want, you will find a way to get it and nothing or noone will stop you. True story.

[the minx]

It's a funny thing when it's only happening to you, isn't it?

[Cantabridgienne]

Have you ever talked to a therapist?

[BigCityDreamer]

Originally Posted by Rabbitluvr

Here's another thing that is related - goals. I have also come to the realization that any goals I have that do NOT involve other people - such as getting into shape, losing weight, learning new things, etc. all things I have done, btw - are the only goals that can materialize. Howeever, any goals that involve others will not and cannot be realized such as getting a better job and relationships. Impossible.

And I have eleven solid years worth of proof to show for it.

Yup, these are wise words. Don't depend on other people for your own success.

If you want something (anything) done, then do it yourself. There is no better way and never has been.

[Rabbitluvr]

Originally Posted by Ascension2012

Oh, cry me a river, rabbit. Are you throwing yourself another pity party here? Its great that your goals revolve around things that only you can control, you wouldnt want it any other way. Being decent, kind, gentle or interesting wont get you very far in life, at least not in the way that you think it would. What you want is the most relevant thing there is. If its something you really want, you will find a way to get it and nothing or noone will stop you. True story.

That's a lie.

You think that if I really wanted a relationship bad enough it can just happen? Are you serious? That is insane... that goal involves ANOTHER PERSON, yes, another person who does not want me! And all women, it seems, are 'other persons'. THEY are the people who are stopping me so your clicheed response has zero validity in my experience.

[Rabbitluvr]

Originally Posted by BigCityDreamer

Yup, these are wise words. Don't depend on other people for your own success.

If you want something (anything) done, then do it yourself. There is no better way.

So how does one get a relationship then since it is dependent on another person?

[bobman]

Ummm, read your posts objectively, as if you were reading someone else's.

Tell me, would you want you ?

Originally Posted by Rabbitluvr

ANOTHER PERSON, yes, another person who does not want me!

[Rabbitluvr]

Originally Posted by bobman

Ummm, read your posts objectively, as if you were reading someone else's.

Tell me, would you want you ?

Actually, yes. Interesting, educated, well-rounded, in shape, eats right, strong values, solid character... sure, no problem.

But we all know those things do not count, especially in this age. No way.

[BigCityDreamer]

Originally Posted by Rabbitluvr

So how does one get a relationship then since it is dependent on another person?

Based on some of your other comments, I suggest broadening your horizons.

I can assure you there are women in this world who want to be in a relationship with you. Maybe in a different part of the country, maybe in another country, maybe of a different ethnicity. There's a world of opportunity out there.