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Breakups are hard. I agree with the advice given on that page, except the "don't jump into another relationship too soon" deal. I have heard that so many times, and I can attest that it is untrue. All the times I have "jumped into relationships" like that, they have all worked out great. If they didn't work out it was usually due to incompatibility, not because I was still hung up on another guy. So don't beleive everything you hear just cause people love saying it. Its not for everybody.
pffft..... I usually get over breakups in 3 days to a week. It's not a big deal to me....I suppose I have lots of interests to occupy my time. Such as posting on this message board. hahah
Now that is some famtabulous advice. Really like this: "Your hurt is not necessarily a measure of your love for the other but rather a measure of your humanity."
Here is what happened at the end of my last relationship, this is after there was really no possibility of getting back together.
1. Clean and total break, purge the emails, phone numbers etc. and move on.
2. Don't take it as an opportunity to get in some cheap shots about what went wrong. Obviously it didn't work, take the high road and recognize these things happen. Hurting them won't make things better even if the other person says some things that you might not like to hear.
3. Find someone new. You have to decide the pace of this for yourself and some wounds go deeper than others in terms of how long you'd been together and how things ended.
Dwelling on the past can be unhealthy. If you are a little messed up then just date and take things slow so you don't rush into anything but are getting out.
2. Don't take it as an opportunity to get in some cheap shots about what went wrong. Obviously it didn't work, take the high road and recognize these things happen. Hurting them won't make things better even if the other person says some things that you might not like to hear.
but are getting out.
If it was his fault and he led me to beleive that he loved me, then suddenly took the easy way out, there will be accusations. He gets what he gives.
Taking the high road might work for some, but its not necessary all the time. Especially after 8 long months of planning and wasting my time.
I think you have to get on with life because life is so short. I've been thinking how only ten years ago I was in my early 20's and it seemed so long to go and now taking that same block of time into the future, in ten years I'll be considered "middle aged". Not a whole lot of time there folks.
Hence I don't waste time ruminating over break ups. I remember I spent the summer of 2003 moping about over a girl I was over and done with. Actually it was a good lesson for me to learn because I wasted a whole summer in self imposed exile for what!?!
It's that old cliche "Move On" and it's true, Move On. Life is short and you can't waste it farting about worrying about bygones. Take a day, look at what went wrong, learn from it and move on. Women seem to have this idea we need to have a mourning period over them before we can be declared fit again at their leisure for a relationship. Don't care ladies, cause when something ends, it ends for a reason. Let bygones, be bygones and move on.
When I hear people whining about "lost" loves I just want to vomit. Remember the good times, but you can't live in them. Those people were lost for a reason.
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