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I'm asking because those people that get married and divorced seem to think their relationship was going to be different from those other people that got divorced.
Please, don't misunderstand the post---I'm not telling people to go in thinking they'll get a divorce. I'm asking do people consider the possibility that it could happen to them?
Did you ever think this? What causes to people think their relationship is different.
The divorce rate is high, do people consider the possibility that it could happen to them?
When I got married, I didn't expect it would end one day, and other people's choices in their own personal lives has never crossed my mind because it has nothing to do with me. I find it astonishing that so many people who don't even have relationship experience spend a lot of time fearing other people's divorces, as if it has any bearing on their lives.
I'm asking because those people that get married and divorced seem to think their relationship was going to be different from those other people that got divorced.
Please, don't misunderstand the post---I'm not telling people to go in thinking they'll get a divorce. I'm asking do people consider the possibility that it could happen to them?
Did you ever think this? What causes to people think their relationship is different.
The divorce rate is high, do people consider the possibility that it could happen to them?
Everyone goes into a relationship with the best intentions. Everyone thinks every serious relationship will be different, until its not. Thats just the nature of life on the planet Earth, it has nothing to do with divorce rates and crap.
The divorce rate is actually down, because people aren't getting married as much as they were before. When people are getting married, its to someone they actually want to be with for a long time.
Marriage, as it stands today, was developed when people only lived to 40 years old, 50 at the most. So if you were married at 20 or 30, you might only have 20 years with someone. Hell back then, husbands and wives would just kill one another many times, and then they were "widows/widowers".
Marriage, as it stands today, was developed when people only lived to 40 years old, 50 at the most. So if you were married at 20 or 30, you might only have 20 years with someone. Hell back then, husbands and wives would just kill one another many times, and then they were "widows/widowers".
I guess we're just not as resilient these days. We only get killed once.
The divorce rate is actually down, because people aren't getting married as much as they were before. When people are getting married, its to someone they actually want to be with for a long time.
Marriage, as it stands today, was developed when people only lived to 40 years old, 50 at the most. So if you were married at 20 or 30, you might only have 20 years with someone. Hell back then, husbands and wives would just kill one another many times, and then they were "widows/widowers".
I think you need to lay down now and sleep it off and then come back and read what you wrote
When I got married, I didn't expect it would end one day, and other people's choices in their own personal lives has never crossed my mind because it has nothing to do with me. I find it astonishing that so many people who don't even have relationship experience spend a lot of time fearing other people's divorces, as if it has any bearing on their lives.
This stuck out at me....especially the bolded.
I am guilty of this, but fear is not the only thing that kept me from being with someone. I believe a lot of people without relationship experience or very little experience are like this mainly because of the possibility of that person's relationship reflecting on one they may get into with someone they are interested in, in the future. This a flaw a lot of people have, when they witness something negative with only a few they have been exposed to, they think EVERYONE is like that.
I am more open minded than I was before, at least I try to be. I don't go along with the crowd but it seems like a lot of other people do (I know I may be going of base, but I am sure you get what I am saying). I started thinking everyone believed the same thing because so many other people I encountered did. I know that it seems silly but being sheltered and inexperience can cause things like that to happen.
When I had liked a guy, people would always tell me over and over that each guy was no good, and I would end up getting hurt. Now that it has happened the few times I have liked someone, it is part of the reason I feel discouraged and apprehensive towards relationships.
Last edited by Auraliea; 08-22-2014 at 10:12 AM..
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