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My wife and I are both pretty smart individuals. However, she and I have complementary intelligences. She is freakishly good at math and technical stuff and I am more of an abstract and verbal thinker. But we both have a twisted sense of humor, so it works very well.
My wife loves me because I am kind, loyal and generous in my affection to her, her son, her extended family and because I accept her as she is without any reservation or judgement. She also thinks I am gorgeous and the best sex partner she has ever been with. I love her for exactly the same reasons. We are worlds apart in intellect. She is far superior to me in terms of social intelligence, and I to her in terms of my formal education and intellectual curiosity. We learn from each other.
There are a lot of areas where he's more knowledgeable about specific things than I am. He would say the same about me. We learn from one another. But we are on the same intellectual plane. I wouldn't have it any other way.
My husband is definitely the intelligent one in our relationship...in every aspect. I have flat out asked him many times why the heck he's with me because I don't bring much to the table. I guess I'm good at doing laundry.
I've never fallen in love with any guy that was my intellectual equal but I don't care much,id rather a guy that writes mesmerising songs or passionate poetry than some guy whose going to talk to me about speculative realism or Heidegger or something all day,intellectual types can be too reasoned and not passionate or emotional enough for me.I would love someone who had a love for History though.
So, you think that "high intellect" is confined to those with an interest in philosophy, and that someone skilled in composing music or poetry isn't intellectual?
poetic/artistic types tend to be more flighty and spirited but they can be intellectuals too of course,I am one of those mixed types.But I'm talking about hardcore intellectuals who do nothing but reason all day.
My husband is pretty much my equal intellectually and I wouldn't be in a relationship with anyone who wasn't (in either direction). We also have pretty much the same type of intelligence (abstract, creative, language-oriented). This makes for great commonalities and conversations but has the downside of us sometimes encountering a problem neither of us can solve, since we have the same weaknesses. How many high-IQ creative writers does it take to change a light-bulb? Judging by what happened last week, more than two. >.<
I'm not so sure that equal intellectually saying means what it means to some people. I can assume that the OP meant that you have a smart person who's not with a dummy.
We have ways that we're smart and other ways where we're not as smart, for lack of another term. I don't know what the technical textbook term is for varying intelligences, but it exists.
In some ways I'm smarter than Mrs. Chow and other ways she's smarter than me. It's complementary and in that respect is equal.
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