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It never bothered me when dates would ask my occupation, I never discussed pay because I find that to be more personal and that will eventually come out but not right away. Likewise, I never asked someone what they made but rather I think it's perfectly normal to discuss your profession in general "get to know you" conversation. My thing is, if you have a job and aren't up to your eyeballs in debt then you are doing okay. LOL
It has never bothered me. It is part of the "getting to know each other" phase. I mean I personally would like to know that my potential "date/SO" is not some loser who still leaves in mom's basement!!!
It is just one of the basic converstation topics. It dosent bother me but I do hate trying to explain exactly what we do. For some odd reason a hand full of ppl think Im a nurse and always ask me if I can get them pain meds for their back.
I agree that it's just a question to learn more about someone. If "So what kind of work do you do?" is followed with, "How did you end up in that line of work?" or "Is that something that always interested you?"--then you're fine. If it's followed by, "What kind of car do you drive?" or "Will you be getting a promotion soon?"--then run.
Sure, but not necessarily in the "Hi, my name is Mike and I'm so and so. What do you do?" manner. It's cold, off-putting, and does not ignite any attraction, at least as far as I'm concerned. That's best reserved for business meetings. You need some sparkle and interest before anybody even cares what you do.
Hi sierraAZ,
I completely agree. I have been with those people who do talk about their work and nothing else. I'm bored. Everyone does something for a living therefore I will find out if you have a brain by those things you are not obligated to do. If we start talking about TV a lot we could pretty much skip over what we do for a living since its not going to work out anyway.
For me it depends who's doing the asking and how much I know about them. My job is a bit more "politically sensitive" and it depends on how far people lean to the left or the right how much I'll talk about it. If I don't know someone very well, I keep my job description very vague. If I'm on a date with someone, chances are I already know we're on the same page politically, so I'll talk about it more.
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I agree that it's just a question to learn more about someone. If "So what kind of work do you do?" is followed with, "How did you end up in that line of work?" or "Is that something that always interested you?"--then you're fine. If it's followed by, "What kind of car do you drive?" or "Will you be getting a promotion soon?"--then run.
Sounds good to me. I live in a smallish community. Jobs define people as much as anything, like it or not.
From TVSG's thread that reminded me of a couple of others as well. Are any of you offended or find it intrusive, in the acquainting stages, when someone asks you what you do for a living? I've asked and have been asked and have never had a problem either way.
From TVSG's posts, I believe he also asks their credit scores and has them fill out a dating application before he'll go out with them. He then runs a background check.
Sure, but not necessarily in the "Hi, my name is Mike and I'm so and so. What do you do?" manner. It's cold, off-putting, and does not ignite any attraction, at least as far as I'm concerned. That's best reserved for business meetings. You need some sparkle and interest before anybody even cares what you do.
True; but if she asks then I'll figure she wants to know and I'll tell her.
It's an easy ice breaker on a date. It's one of those questions that's not too intrusive and not off limits and you can usually find something to talk about when discussing one's profession. I think it's a good question to ask when just meeting someone and getting to know that person.
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