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Why in the hell would you want to be with a girl who acts like this? She sounds like a spoiled brat! Why do you settle for that?
Please, do yourself a favor and go out and get a real woman.
Now now thats what he gets for dating a younger gal. When I was 22 I dated a man that was 29. From my experience Hun you have the upper hand..young and dumb...has no idea how hard the real world is. She seems into you and she probably is. If she does come over thats your test on how she reacts...think of it as an adventure for both of you. If she doesn't dig your place...tell her so where's yours? Messiness can be cleaned up...personality is a different story. If it doesn't work..well at least you tested it and now to move on.
Well, I didn't furnish my apartment because it feels like a pitstop to me, and the mail slot is in the front door so someone can lift the flap and see what I have inside. Furthermore, no one really visits anyway, and I don't want to furnish it just for potential company. I intend to move out soon, and when I do move into my next place it will be fully furnished (of course, I expect the place to be a bit nicer).
Admittedly, I am somewhat ashamed of how I am living. I know what I'm doing, but I make decent money yet I live like a broke college student. Helps me out in the long run but I still sometimes feel a little embarrassed by it. Also, this girl is attractive and makes for decent company although there are some characteristics I can live without. I probably do need to either find another woman, decide to remain single, or shut up and ride the wave. Not sure exactly what to do about that at this point, but I know I'm still very apprehensive about her coming here.
-she expects you to spend a total of four hours and 40 minutes (minimum) transporting her on your own dime for gettogethers
-her background, unlike yours, lends itself to spoiledness and pretention
-you assume she'd spend her time at your place behaving critically, whining, and ordering you around, and you don't feel like hearing it
-you're sick of being asked to host
-you feel put on the spot
Why do you have any association with her at all? It sounds like you're not all that interested in her/having much connection with her, perhaps for good reason. You really just sound annoyed and irritated by her, not attracted.
I don't know, from what you wrote, the expectation that you'll provided all the transportation for a fairly long-distance arrangement is pretty ridic. Other than that, it's hard to say that her wanting to come over is super unreasonable. I've done LDRs of greater distance, and really, it's pointless to make that kind of a trip to grab a coffee and see ya later. If she's into you, obviously she wants to spend time with you. It honestly doesn't sound like you're into her.
Are you serious? Would you let your daughter agree to that with a guy she just met?
She's 22 years old, not 16. My initial concern might be why my daughter wants to see his place which is so far away after only a couple of dates, not how she goes about arranging it.
Spoiled but doesn't have a car? Am I missing something?
I say oblige her, but first clean the damn place up, if you don't have crap as you claim keeping it clean shouldn't be an issue. If she starts quizzing you on why you live the way you do explain it to her as you have done here. If she doesn't like it you can dump her when you get her home.
I would tell her in a very relaxed, unashamed way, that you are paying debts and have a nearly unfurnished apartment - just the bare necessities. Just tell her that before you show it to her. But don't make it a point of telling her this as a way to prepare her. Just bring it into a normal conversation about your goals and how you are meeting them.
She's 22 years old, not 16. My initial concern might be why my daughter wants to see his place which is so far away after only a couple of dates, not how she goes about arranging it.
Seriously, at 22 years old, I wasn't really requiring parental oversight on my dating life.
In the space of three paragraphs you said she's spoiled and pretentious...so why are you with her? Do you honestly want to get serious with someone like this? If not, then who cares what she thinks of your place? Go out, have fun, and quench her curiosity and have her over after you've cleaned up a bit. She may just surprise you and not really care all that much about where you live.
From a lady...the thing is that you need to be 100% true to yourself. It seems as though you don't really know her. Now if all you are wanting is a little ya know, well then get the heck over how the house looks and just do it. But if by chance you really do like this girl, get to know her, when you feel comfortable that she is in tune with the way that you choose to live then things will be all good. I am always a fan of not playing the game, tell the girl what it is that you own and why. If it is meant to be then it is meant to be.
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