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Girl, you're lucky I hadn't had my afternoon 'coffee' (read cocoa for me LOL), 'cause that Ashley mess would have made me lose it all over my monitor...THAT was hilarious
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Originally Posted by thriftylefty
I'm wondering ,do white men dog black women ? I know they dog white women.
i always wondered why white men aren't more afraid of white women....you ever watch those crime shows that feature female killers...scary stuff
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Originally Posted by etacarinae
Kill the thread!!
It has served it's purpose.
LOL I love this thread - I'm surprised it lasted this long tho
i always wondered why white men aren't more afraid of white women....you ever watch those crime shows that feature female killers...scary stuff
LOL I love this thread - I'm surprised it lasted this long tho
i always wondered why white men aren't more afraid of white women....you ever watch those crime shows that feature female killers...scary stuff
Exactly. If you look up female killers on the web they will surely show you a huge number of them who have killed not only strangers, but husbands, families, and children.
That's all well and good. And I honestly wish you the best in your search. But as someone who is in his seventh year of marriage and has been with the same black woman for over a decade let me try to shed some light.
Miss me with that American dream stuff. What I mean is a marriage is not about being upwardly mobile. It is not about keeping up with a social standard based on material wealth (or the appearance of). It is not about who has the better job. It is not about the number of certificates you have hanging on the wall in your home office. There is nothing wrong with any of those things. And I am not trying disrespect the American Dream concept. But college degrees don't sooth arguments. Money doesn't make a man want to rediscover his wife after the seasons of life have brought about change. "Good" schools don't give children character, and they dang sure don't move them to love and respect their parents.
On a personal note my parents were teens when they had me. They never married and broke up soon after I was born. My wife's parents did marry but went through a horrible divorce that tore their family apart. I have a number of half siblings as does my wife. When I look at my wife and our two kids (that were born after we married) I realize this is much bigger than her and I. This is about way more than a checklist of mate qualities. This is about so much more than being "upwardly mobile." For us, this is about changing the direction of our families. My parents never married. My father's parents never married. My mother's parents never married. And by that you can guess the kinds of lives my family members have lived. Yet my son and daughter were born to married mother and father. That may mean nothing to you or anyone else. However, for me that runs deeper than any conversation about mate qualities and education level. The daily decision that my wife and I make to give of ourselves into this union is literally breaking down barriers for our son and daughter. Years from now when I am gone I hope my posterity can look back at my wife and I and say the direction our family line changed with us.
Really, some people shouldn't get married. At least they shouldn't until their understanding opens up and they see what this is really about. Most of the people who participate in conversations like this have not a clue. That goes for men and women. It's just constant bickering back and forth and nothing is resolved. Some of you will never experience "us" because you think too much about "me".
Yes. I agree with you. However, by the same token, these "decent men without girlfriends" are only interested in dating attractive exciting looking women aka hotties. If these same decent (average looking and boring) men were to try to date decent, average looking non-trophy women, they'd have plenty of success.
You men should take your rant and pick your prospective girlfriends the same way that you'd like to be chosen by a woman as a mate. Go more for a woman's inner qualities instead of only mooning after and chasing the hot looking girls.
After all, what else do you expect from a woman that has beauty and knows how to make the most of it? She knows that she is attractive and is dressing up like her favorite celebrities... so you can see that she wants to be treated special like a celebrity, so why would she want an average looking boring kind of guy as her boyfriend? You decent men have to work on your personal style and charm, if you want to catch a trophy girlfriend.
I have not followed this thread because this topic is being beat to death all over the country right now! BUt with that said, this comment is SPOT ON!!! WELL SAID . Now, I agree 110% that a lot of the "average" black dudes get over-looked, BUT these men don't go for the average, normal looking females. As stated above, they go for THE prettiest woman or the trophy that every other man wants. Also as stated above, black men should pick their women they way they want to be picked. Great post!!!
After 900 + posts I'm starting to not care where the good black men went.
LOL
I agree! LOL! I will say that I decided weeks ago to that I am not falling for the "shortage of black men" crap. There are decent black men around, but a lot of black men have accountability issues (but thats another 900+post topic) so I won't go there. Both black men and women have some issues to sort through....
This thread may hit 1000+ replies at it's current rate.
There's a good black man in Duval county right now
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. Now, I agree 110% that a lot of the "average" black dudes get over-looked, BUT these men don't go for the average, normal looking females. As stated above, they go for THE prettiest woman or the trophy that every other man wants. Also as stated above, black men should pick their women they way they want to be picked. Great post!!!
