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I would want some suggestion on this before I decide to marry her somewhere between May-July of next year. This is my first time ever getting engaged to a woman. In all my relationships, they wouldn't go beyond exclusive dating but with her it's something I never felt ever before.
The problem started just 3 days ago on a family reunion, when her political aunt starting telling me about these things she's done at the tender age of 10. According to the aunt, my fiancee was getting punished at home for picking up a fight again in school. Not just that but she threatened the kid to slit his throat if he doesn't shut up. Several days later the aunt caught her trying to set a pigeon's nest on fire. The final incident was her trying to push her aunt downstairs.
This is was the reason she had cut contact with the family for years wanting nothing to do with her, until March 2009.
I never had trouble with woman's past. I have been involved with women who had more sexual partners than me, two who cheated on an ex once, has kids and one who came out of an abusive relationship.
However, this past I just heard from the aunt is giving me trouble. I never done any of those things as a kid. This is the reason why I haven't call her all day today. One part of me wants me to think that she was only a kid then, learned from it and is a better person now. Another part is telling me to go search more about her or cancel the engagement. I think it would have been better if I had not known this. Why did the aunt had to go through this with me?
I would want some suggestion on this before I decide to marry her somewhere between May-July of next year. This is my first time ever getting engaged to a woman. In all my relationships, they wouldn't go beyond exclusive dating but with her it's something I never felt ever before.
The problem started just 3 days ago on a family reunion, when her political aunt starting telling me about these things she's done at the tender age of 10. According to the aunt, my fiancee was getting punished at home for picking up a fight again in school. Not just that but she threatened the kid to slit his throat if he doesn't shut up. Several days later the aunt caught her trying to set a pigeon's nest on fire. The final incident was her trying to push her aunt downstairs.
This is was the reason she had cut contact with the family for years wanting nothing to do with her, until March 2009.
I never had trouble with woman's past. I have been involved with women who had more sexual partners than me, two who cheated on an ex once, has kids and one who came out of an abusive relationship.
However, this past I just heard from the aunt is giving me trouble. I never done any of those things as a kid. This is the reason why I haven't call her all day today. One part of me wants me to think that she was only a kid then, learned from it and is a better person now. Another part is telling me to go search more about her or cancel the engagement.
Go ahead and marry her. But you better not cross her.
I would suggest a long engagement with a side order of intense therapy.
What she did as a child is not normal. Probably something you need to discuss with her. If her own flesh and blood cut ties with her - you know that's bad.
My own sister said that my son tried to stab her and that I pushed her down the stairs which is how she hurt her back. Neither one is even remotely true. How do you know that her aunt doesn't have some problems of her own, and is just making it up, or has her confused with someone else?
Did you ask your girlfriend about these incidents?
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