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Originally Posted by Renee22
I dont like when people take me for granted.
How about you?
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I'm not quite certain what the poster who responded, 'Over time--people learn not to Assume' meant.
Hazarding a guess---you could be a person who 'likes to please others' to borrow a term from the selp help books of the 70's and 80's. From this point --the self help books went on to expand the label to describe 'people pleasers' as to say the least neurotic, needy, unassertive. Now whether any of this is true about you---I wouldn't know.
There are Jerks in the world---if you are a person--say in a work setting and you are trying to do your job and get along with others---there is likely an individual who is more competitive, perhaps gossips about others and is intent upon promoting herself. If you are the person who agrees to do things that others don't want to do--you become known as --how can I put it---'A nice person, but...'
That's one example---if you are in a relationship and it always seems that the other's priorities are more important than your own--easier to go along than to have conflict---it's the same sort of thing.
If this is a relationship problem--I'll let someone else take it from here--having read all sorts of online advice in these matters--I am convinced that unless I know a lot more about you--I am not qualified to advise on relationships.
In a work situation--you could possibly be more task oriented/professional and if asked to 'Go get lunch or do something nobody else wants to do'---you could --'Say---I've got so much work to do--I'd love to help you out today but I'm not certain when I'll have a minute to breathe'.
This is probably feeble advice and not what you needed to hear but when I feel I am being 'taking for granted' --I check back over how I have been interacting with others---if I have been 'the flexible one'---willing to change plans, do more for others than they seem willing to do for me---I start taking an inventory of myself. Ususally having some self esteem issues and I have to start doing some things to work on that.
hth
Sorry I don't have better advice.
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Took For Granted
However, some people must see this imaginary sign on my forehead that reads "WANTED: SOMEONE TO TAKE ME FOR GRANTED". 
I've been to the doctor about it but to no avail....there is no medication/treatment to prevent it. Sometimes my heart is too big to say no and it happens all over again. 
