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okay so this just came to me, whats up with chicks and the whole bad boy thing? they b*tch about how there boyfriend is mean or abusive, but they just cant leave him because she "loves" him and she cant be without him. its really annoying and funny(well to me that is) to hear them complain about they cant stand him, or they always come to you and drop all there problems on to you. you like this chick and shes ging out with an a$$hole, youre always there for them as a shoulder to cry on and give them support and advice finding out she doesnt take your advice and goes back to that a$$. oh when they breakup over and over again is also my favorite. she says she hates him, but 5min later there back together, act like a couple then 2min later there back to hating each other. so whats the reason with this? why go through all that trouble and complain about you cant find a man who is nice or will treat you as a queen and so on? this is for guys who have trouble with this issue and girls who either have that same problem or who have done the same thing.
The question is... Are you "there as a shoulder for her to cry on" because you think that she's actually going to get with you IF she ever leaves this guy???
I can tell you from YEARS of experience throughout High School and College that it does NOT work out that way....... EVER...
Go find your own woman and leave her to deal with her own crap...
Unless you're in that situation, you'll never understand it, i'm afraid.
If it bugs you, then find another friend.
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okay so this just came to me, whats up with chicks and the whole bad boy thing? they b*tch about how there boyfriend is mean or abusive, but they just cant leave him because she "loves" him and she cant be without him. its really annoying and funny(well to me that is) to hear them complain about they cant stand him, or they always come to you and drop all there problems on to you. you like this chick and shes ging out with an a$$hole, youre always there for them as a shoulder to cry on and give them support and advice finding out she doesnt take your advice and goes back to that a$$. oh when they breakup over and over again is also my favorite. she says she hates him, but 5min later there back together, act like a couple then 2min later there back to hating each other. so whats the reason with this? why go through all that trouble and complain about you cant find a man who is nice or will treat you as a queen and so on? this is for guys who have trouble with this issue and girls who either have that same problem or who have done the same thing.
okay so this just came to me, whats up with chicks and the whole bad boy thing? they b*tch about how there boyfriend is mean or abusive, but they just cant leave him because she "loves" him and she cant be without him. its really annoying and funny(well to me that is) to hear them complain about they cant stand him, or they always come to you and drop all there problems on to you. you like this chick and shes ging out with an a$$hole, youre always there for them as a shoulder to cry on and give them support and advice finding out she doesnt take your advice and goes back to that a$$. oh when they breakup over and over again is also my favorite. she says she hates him, but 5min later there back together, act like a couple then 2min later there back to hating each other. so whats the reason with this? why go through all that trouble and complain about you cant find a man who is nice or will treat you as a queen and so on? this is for guys who have trouble with this issue and girls who either have that same problem or who have done the same thing.
You know, I hate these kind of posts, because they manage to be self-pitying and self-congratulatory at the same time. As in, "Why can't women appreciate me for my nobility and purity?"
Here's the thing. Women don't love men because they're bad. Women love men who love their lives, who relish every moment, who are confident in their own skin, and respect themselves enough to not put up with BS. What's more, while all women want to be adored, they don't like being worshipped and despise being toadied to above all. And men who won't assert themselves and won't respect themselves just aren't on their radar screens.
Next time this woman comes around, grow a pair and say, "Look, Mary. I'm just going to shoot straight here. You seem to have an affinity for a-holes. Too bad, because I'm really interested in you. What I'm not really interested in is your using me for sympathy when you know, deep down, how I feel about you. So if you'd like to be with a guy who will treat you well then, great, let's get started. But if all you're doing is using me as your personal little Dr. Phil, please go find someone else. I don't have the patience to be used like this."
Then comes the inevitable shocked and hurt response, "But I want to be friends."
And then you say, "That's nice. But if this friendship, then it's an awfully one-way friendship. I console you, then you run off to be with this guy again. I have enough friends as it is, friends who respect me and give me better treatment than this. Give me a call if you change your mind about me."
Trust me. This is a liberating thing. Chances are almost 100% that she'll say, "To hell with you" and storm out of your apartment. But a week or two later, one of two things will happen. Either A) She'll realize what a fool she's been and how she really took advantage of your good nature or B) She'll write you off as a "friend," which is how she characterizes your little Parasite/Host relationship. If she chooses A, then you will have managed to make her think about you in a completely new and better way. If she chooses B, then who the hell cares?
Does that mean you have to be a Grade A youknowwhat? Does that mean you have to treat women poorly? Does that mean you have to own a Harley? Nope. What it does mean is that you have to have a spine, you have to be your own person, and you have to expect that the woman respects your needs as much as you respect hers.
In short, given a choice between an interesting Bad Boy and a dull Nice Guy, the interesting guy wins every time. Be the interesting guy.
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< looking over shoulder at the rest of the clan gathered on the village lawn for the evening show> Isn't this thread # 85 of the same topic? And yes, RUN from this kinda gal...and DON"T share any Candy w/her either..It is called Drama Queen..AKA crazy b...
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And yes, RUN from this kinda gal...and DON"T share any Candy w/her either..It is called Drama Queen..AKA crazy b
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