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Thank you. I get tired of this type of stereotype. I am 30+ with no kids because I wanted to do things the right way, and not just get knocked up by some man to try to get him to marry me. Gee..sorry.
I was close to getting married, but it didn't work out. I have not found the person I have clicked with yet, but this is partly my fault because I just go to work, work overtime.and go home. As my friends keep telling me, you cant find a man in your living room.
I am much more dateable than I was in my 20's. I had a lot of growing up to do. But now, I'm much more grounded, mature, and know what things to worry about and what things to just let pass. But now..at my age, all im finding are these people who HAVE been married, had kids, divorced, etc and are now bitter and spiteful about relationships.
So, that works both way. I suppose I should be suspicious about the next divorced person I meet.
This is a great post. Some of us 30+ have been holding out on the perfect SO. I'm so glad I got into a rush and got married and had kids and got divorced before I was 30?
I have a friend who's my age(33), who's one of those women who hasn't been single for more than two weeks since she turned 14. She's been married and divorced once, but just flits from one relationship to the next looking for the perfect relationship. Whereas I go for months in between relationships, am generally happy with my life, and am really picky as to who I let into my life. But according to the OP, I'm the one to be suspicious of.
30+ single with no kids is something to be suspicious of? I'd say a 20+ single man with kids is worse.
Neither situation is any of your business or my business, as long as the parents aren't asking taxpayers to foot the bill for their children or lifestyle.
In a very part time business I run (not my day job) I get to meet and talk to a large range of women mainly and also men. I'm always abit suspicious when I meet a very attractive woman esp 30+ who is single and or has no children.
I mean there is usually a personality issue or emotional baggage.
Think its only a natural reaction to think this way.
Also the other thing I strike even more regularly is the nastiness of women to women.
Really can be very harsh at times, nothing like women to men. Always have my digital camera handy in case a cat fight breaks out, just joking on that part.
I'm sorry to tell you but you are completely stereotyping and making yourself look not very smart. I'm 34, attractive and have never been married by choice. Plus I am not interested in having kids. That doesn't mean there's anything wrong with me. It's the way I choose to live my life and there's nothing wrong it. I'm not interested in being tied down to kids or being involved in the financial debacle that divorce leads to..
If a single woman is in her 20s and has kids, that's an issue.
If a single woman is 30+ and doesn't have kids, that's an issue.
Seriously? You guys are ****ed up. I say that with sincerity.
It goes along with: golddiggers are bad, and women who try to pay are bad. Sluts are bad, and prudes are bad. Independent women are bad, and clingy women are bad. Can't win.
Sorry, but I had educational and career goals. It was more important for me to fulfill my goals and have the freedom to travel and move wherever and whenever I wanted than it was to tie myself down. Now, if I could have found a similar free spirit, that would have been cool! But it wasn't a requirement. See, that's what happens when you take care of yourself first -- you become secure. Many women of my generation didn't want to become our mothers -- NEEDING a man to help support and "fulfill" us. We had opportunities and took them.
Looking back, would I have done differently and gotten hitched? Nope. See, I have had incredible experiences, am very versatile career-wise, and I have traveled quite extensively. Others I know who married early and made that their whole lives haven't ever been outside the U.S. and are putting up with all sorts of bad behavior from their "hubbies" because they're afraid that they can't make it on their own. And that's somehow "better" to you? Heh.
Funny how many men are unmarried w/out kids into their 40's and there's understanding for that. I don't understand what's different for women. I also don't understand what's so shocking about baggage since most kids are children of divorce, parents develop illnesses, addictions, even die. That alone would give you baggage through no fault of their own. The OP seems really unrealistic.
I get what you are saying and how it looks as the older people get and not being married or had kids yet but.... it's true. These days women and men are choosing careers over families and putting off marriage and children to much later on. Honestly, it's the smart thing to do especially in these tough economic and financial times.
In a very part time business I run (not my day job) I get to meet and talk to a large range of women mainly and also men. I'm always abit suspicious when I meet a very attractive woman esp 30+ who is single and or has no children.
I mean there is usually a personality issue or emotional baggage.
Think its only a natural reaction to think this way.
Also the other thing I strike even more regularly is the nastiness of women to women.
Really can be very harsh at times, nothing like women to men. Always have my digital camera handy in case a cat fight breaks out, just joking on that part.
Suspicious of what? That these ladies may not be married with a bunch of kids hanging all over them because perhaps they have a career and maybe hobbies or interests that fulfill them? No, I'm not suspicious. I see a lot of happy, fulfilled, emotionally stable, single women in their 30's and up on a daily basis, and emotional baggage is the furthest thing from my mind.
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