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I had been going to a massage therapist regularly since June. She gave an great massage but kept trying to insert herself into my personal life, give me dating advice and telling me about her dating experiences.
In January I told her I was going out of town and would call her when I was ready for another appointment. She called me on the second of January wanting to schedule an appointment and hasn't stopped since. Now I don't want to take her calls or go back. It's so annoying that I can't imagine getting a relaxing massage from her.
She's also moved her business (I don't know where) but if my chiropracter got a new therapist I'll probably go to her. Otherwise I'm done with massage.
Do I tell this person the truth or do I try to wait until she stops calling me? I don't think she will get it even if I'm very blunt in my explanation....
If you don't want to hurt her feelings, you could nicely tell her that in the current economy your discretionary spending is limited and a massage is not in the budget at this time. Anyone should understand this.
I'm not sure if it would stop her from calling. I had to be really firm about her not calling me during my work hours and that I would NOT take any calls during the work day. Didn't get it, even though I never pick up.
I purchased a car a few years ago and the dealer still calls me! Can't stand it! I get emails a few times a year as well.
I don't even have that car anymore so I don't need reminding about oil changes and stuff.
So, since it's just business- tell her to cease communications. I did this to the car place but they still email me!
You'll have better luck since it's a one person business.
I'm not sure if it would stop her from calling. I had to be really firm about her not calling me during my work hours and that I would NOT take any calls during the work day. Didn't get it, even though I never pick up.
Well then it sounds like you are going to have to be a little firmer with her. Perhaps you can tell her you have found another masseuse and won't need her services any longer.
She is being rude by continuing to call you when you have asked her not to call you at work. All bets are off now and if you have to get nasty...then so be it. You owe her nothing.
Well then it sounds like you are going to have to be a little firmer with her. Perhaps you can tell her you have found another masseuse and won't need her services any longer.
She is being rude by continuing to call you when you have asked her not to call you at work. All bets are off now and if you have to get nasty...then so be it. You owe her nothing.
Thank you! I think that's what I needed to hear. I can't help feeling that she may be a narcissist. Nothing I say seems to phase her and I wonder if she keeps any clients because she won't keep her mouth shut.
Thank you! I think that's what I needed to hear. I can't help feeling that she may be a narcissist. Nothing I say seems to phase her and I wonder if she keeps any clients because she won't keep her mouth shut.
Sounds like classic narcissistic syndrome to me. Sometimes being rude is the only way to get their attention...don't feel bad...she'll move on to her next victim. Good luck!
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